Living with an emotionally abusive partner is a dangerous and damaging thing to do. Unfortunately, getting him out of your bed, isn’t enough to get his toxicity out of your system. Here are the Top 10 After-Effects most emotionally abused women are left with.
Endlessly rehashing your emotionally abusive relationship. Why? You lived it. You did the […]
One thing my emotionally abusive husband used to say about me that wasn’t wrong was that I can be a bit of a mother hen. I was born with the Mother Hen gene. These days I can, and do, rein it in, well enough. However…
When I first met Olga that Mother Hen gene was instantly […]
If, for whatever reason, you don’t feel able to take on board a sad story, that’s okay. Just stop reading here. Because today I need to tell you the sad story of Sabrina S.
I’m guessing Sabrina would be happy for me to share her story with you. Unfortunately, I can’t ask her, because I’ve just […]
What is it that makes emotional abuse so damaging?
It may not be what you think. Let me explain.
An emotionally abusive husband says things that are unkind, untrue – and unjustified – about you.
What do you do? You tell yourself that those things are to be taken seriously. Because he is to be taken seriously.
You set […]
Christmas is nearly upon us – which means you have choices to make, as regards your emotionally abusive relationship.
Important choices.
You can tell yourself one of those feel-bad Christmas stories that emotionally abused women tell themselves about what you don’t have, and what doesn’t work for you… And I really, really hope you don’t, because I spent […]
Don’t make the Christmas hype mean something about you. So, you don’t have the perfect, fantasy family. That was never your fault. You did the best you could. That’s a lot more than could be said for your emotionally abusive partner. You tried doing two people’s jobs. You actually did it rather well. It’s just […]
“How come an emotionally abusive man gets to walk away scot free, on ‘his’ terms? And then, when he goes around bad-mouthing me, everyone believes him?” That’s what one client asked me this week.
It’s SO not fair, isn’t it?
In an ideal world, emotionally abusive men would get their just deserts. They’d be publicly named and […]
How often have you felt trapped in your emotionally abusive relationship?
Feeling trapped is one of the key aspects of an emotionally abusive relationship. An emotionally abusive partner works hard to create an illusion of powerlessness within you. He wants you to have the sense that all your options have been closed down. So you feel […]
Because he violated your trust, you’ve come to expect that everyone will violate your trust.
Because he told you that you’re worthless often enough, you’ve come to believe that you are worthless.
Because he presented you with his crazy, skewed view of the World so often, you’ve come to believe that it must be true.
Because he’s blamed […]
If you find what your emotionally abusive partner says – and does – hurtful, and damaging, that’s because it is hurtful and damaging. It’s not because you’re “too sensitive”. That’s just your emotionally abusive husband’s way of saying: “I should be able to say, and do, whatever I want. You should just shut up and […]
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