“My emotionally abusive partner loves me really…” is something emotionally abused women often say. They don’t like being in the dark place that emotional abuse takes them to and, in the best of all possible worlds, they would like to recover from emotional abuse but it’s not that easy for them. If he loves them […]
Lisa was doing that emotionally abused woman thing and blaming herself for everything. She found me over the Internet – although, in reality, we only lived about 70 miles apart. She was in one of the darker circles of Hell. She wanted to recover from emotional abuse, although she had no idea how – or […]
So happy.. Angie is the emotionally abused woman who kept telling me how happy she was. She was 3,000 miles away calling on her mobile via Skype, but she was so excited I would probably have heard her even without the marvels of modern technology. My face was aching from smiling so much.
Now, that’s not […]
Lisa was in that difficult halfway house between wanting to recover from emotional abuse and wanting to hold on to the relationship with her emotionally abusive partner. Her brain kept telling her that she couldn’t do both, but her emotions were resisting all the way. Naturally enough, she could find plenty of reasons why she […]
Is your emotionally abusive partner’s behaviour mind-boggling? Does his mind-boggling behavior make it even harder to recover from an emotionally abusive relationship? Do you find yourself asking: “Why on earth would anyone in their right mind do that?”
Not that I’m suggesting that he’s in his wrong mind. If, from where you stand, his behaviour looks […]
Emotional abuse blinds you to so much that is truly important. That’s why Christmas and New Year are some of the worst days in the calendar for emotionally abused women. It’s the time of year when the media bang on about perfect, happy families – and I bang on about the media driving the sad, […]
“I have to give him another chance’, she said. “I’ve promised.”
He, needless to say, is a man who ‘has his moments – that is to say, an emotionally abusive partner’. He can promise her the good stuff: the Together Forever, the Everlasting Love, the Happiness Ever After quite convincingly. He’s just not terribly good at […]
Emotional abuse is always, ALWAYS tough. It may well be the toughest thing we ever suffer in our entire life.
Not because it is the worst thing. When you stand back and look at it, there are far sadder things than that. But there is an experience of awfulness attached to emotional abuse that you don’t […]
“How can you even be sure it is emotional abuse?” asked the voice on the other end of the line, doubtfully. “It’s so subtle.”
Now, there are many things I would accuse an emotionally abusive husband of, but subtlety is not one of them. Crazy-making, manipulation, terminal judgmentalism, low cunning, and naked spite are just a […]
The tears started, almost before my client spoke. Her situation was A-W-F-U-L. Her emotionally abusive partner was, seemingly, practising a scorched earth policy. My client was well aware of just how awful that was. So was I. But I also know this:
When a situation is really tough sympathy is the last thing anyone needs.
As an […]
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