Isn’t it fascinating the power Other People have over our thinking?
This week, Becky wrote with a problem Other People (OP) kindly pointed out to her: “People tell me I’m too kind-hearted. But I can’t be a bitch, it’s just not in me. Am I destined to spend my life as a good-natured door mat?”
Ouch!!! Don’t […]
What place does fun have in your life?
Has an abusive relationship left you feeling like a hollow shell? Or a pale shadow of the person you really are?
An abusive relationship revolves around his feelings, and his hypersensitivity to offence, where you’re concerned. How many times did he work himself up into a frenzy of indignation […]
Sarah Harding of Girls Aloud is caught up in a bitter war of words with her ex Theo de Vries. She says he attacked her. He says she attacked him, and he merely restrained her to protect himself.
It makes for a sordid tale. So, ‘right thinking people’ everywhere – that is, the kind of people […]
Did you know there are two things that stand in the way of you being happy right now?
According to Alexandra Watson (The Happiness System) these two things may well not be what you think. She says:
“…two things hold you back from being happy right now. The first is a lack of self-awareness or knowledge about […]
When Life gets really difficult, what do you want?
Massive change.
Ideally, most of us – barring the almost pathologically self-reliant – wouldn’t say no to a Fairy Godmother coming along, waving her magic wand, and making it all alright.
Can you picture it now? I certainly can. She’s a cartoon Fairy Godmother, with snowy white hair, and […]
Catherine wrote to ask me how she can beat the abusive programming that’s still running in her head. Here’s her story in her own words:
”I’m a hairdresser, and 3 years ago a gentleman sat in my chair and I slowly and cautiously fell in complete love with him! He asked me out for months before I […]
There’s a killer question that abused women always ask themselves at some point. That question is:
“How can I ever trust again?”
Every woman I’ve worked with who’s been in an emotionally abusive relationship – including myself – has asked it.
Why wouldn’t we?
We’ve been in a relationship with a man who – systematically – betrayed our trust.
Please […]
It’s not often that my wonderful partner drinks to excess – not least because he has quite an impressive capacity to hold his drink. But last Thursday we flew to Venice, as dawn broke over the UK. It made for a very early start, and a long day.
By 9 pm we staggered back to our […]
Just for a change, I wanted to offer you a short, snappy blog post. If anyone needed a sure-fire recipe for an emotionally abusive relationship, this would have to be it.
Make excuses for your partner’s bad behavior, time and time again.
Take sole responsibility for making the relationship work.
Tolerate your partner making hurtful remarks about you.
Give […]
Do you remember the old song “Solitaire”? Solitaire was, apparently, “the only game in town”. But what makes it very like an abusive relationship may not be quite what you think.
Have you ever spent time playing Solitaire on the computer?
After my abusive husband left, I used to play it until late into the night. I […]
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