Christmas is nearly upon us – which means you have choices to make, as regards your emotionally abusive relationship.
Important choices.
You can tell yourself one of those feel-bad Christmas stories that emotionally abused women tell themselves about what you don’t have, and what doesn’t work for you… And I really, really hope you don’t, because I spent […]
Don’t make the Christmas hype mean something about you. So, you don’t have the perfect, fantasy family. That was never your fault. You did the best you could. That’s a lot more than could be said for your emotionally abusive partner. You tried doing two people’s jobs. You actually did it rather well. It’s just […]
“How come an emotionally abusive man gets to walk away scot free, on ‘his’ terms? And then, when he goes around bad-mouthing me, everyone believes him?” That’s what one client asked me this week.
It’s SO not fair, isn’t it?
In an ideal world, emotionally abusive men would get their just deserts. They’d be publicly named and […]
How often have you felt trapped in your emotionally abusive relationship?
Feeling trapped is one of the key aspects of an emotionally abusive relationship. An emotionally abusive partner works hard to create an illusion of powerlessness within you. He wants you to have the sense that all your options have been closed down. So you feel […]
Because he violated your trust, you’ve come to expect that everyone will violate your trust.
Because he told you that you’re worthless often enough, you’ve come to believe that you are worthless.
Because he presented you with his crazy, skewed view of the World so often, you’ve come to believe that it must be true.
Because he’s blamed […]
If you find what your emotionally abusive partner says – and does – hurtful, and damaging, that’s because it is hurtful and damaging. It’s not because you’re “too sensitive”. That’s just your emotionally abusive husband’s way of saying: “I should be able to say, and do, whatever I want. You should just shut up and […]
Have you experienced the shame of an emotionally abusive relationship?
One of the core emotions of an emotionally abusive relationship is shame. All emotionally abusive partners are past-masters at manipulating shame, to their own advantage. From an emotionally abusive husband’s point of view shame is a wonderfully effective tool, which fits perfectly with the dynamic of […]
One of the – many – damaging things you learn in an emotionally abusive relationship is that an emotionally abusive partner doesn’t listen. He never really listens.
It’s not that an emotionally abusive husband is that kind of stupid. He may well hear you. If he appears to be listening intently – especially early on […]
If you’ve been in an emotionally abusive relationship, it’s absolutely normal NOT to feel too great about yourself. Your emotionally abusive husband has trained you to be at least as negative about yourself as he is about you.
Sadly, emotionally abusive partners are highly effective trainers: you end up believing their training is who you are. […]
“Things got so different with my emotionally abusive husband, that I could barely hang in. I certainly didn’t feel “worthy” of any recovery program…” Sylvie said. Have you ever felt like this, too? It’s a common – even normal – response to the repeated trauma of an emotionally abusive relationship.
The normal response to challenges, bad […]
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