“I’m really sad and desperate”
Is it my fault the relationship is abusive? said no emotionally abusive partner. Ever. However, that precise question was at the top of my Inbox after the New Year’s break. It was, of course, an accusation levelled at Tonia, an emotionally abused woman – by her abusive partner.
What followed was,
A typical […]
What do you really want in 2017?
What do you really want, and need in 2017? If you are anything like most emotionally abused women, then you will be saying, “I really need a better year than this last year.” “I need a year when things finally go right.” “I need him to stop driving me […]
Not just for Christmas
Here in the UK we’re frequently reminded, at this time of year, that “A Dog Is Not Just For Christmas”. True enough, decent, responsible people don’t buy a dog just for Christmas.
However, the fact that we are constantly reminded that a dog is for life suggests that a lot of people must […]
The three measures
When are things bad enough to leave an emotionally abusive relationship?
When are things bad enough to leave? is something that emotionally abused women always ask themselves.
The three measures that a woman commonly uses to establish to establish if things are bad enough to leave are
#1 When the children will be able to cope […]
“What do you love about him?”
What do you love about him? is a favorite question of mine What is it that emotionally abused women love about the abusive partner who has worked so hard to make them feel miserable, broken and worthless.
There is little point, you see, in asking emotionally abused women why they love their […]
What The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly have to do with relationships
What do The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly have to do with relationships, and emotional abuse?
We are not talking about the iconic film here. Instead, I want to share with you a story of two men – one good, and one bad. The […]
Why do we settle for an emotionally abusive relationship?
You and I have never met. We’ve, likely, never spoken. Yet we have an awful lot in common. Not least, the fact that we could settle for an emotionally abusive relationship.
If you can recognise your emotionally abusive (ex)partner from my descriptions of the archetype (who was also […]
What “I didn’t try hard enough” really means
Do you worry maybe you didn’t try hard enough in your emotionally abusive relationship? Most women who have been emotionally abused have that worry. They tell themselves that it was their job to make the relationship work. Therefore, if the relationship does not work, it means two things,
They […]
Emotional abuse steals your happiness. If I had to pick one key effect of “abuse”, it would be that. Only an emotionally abusive relationship will leave you feeling so profoundly unhappy and racked by doubt.
Any emotionally abusive relationship is a journey, from hope, to hurt, to despair. There is a bit of happiness at the […]
10 Things That Make Healing Harder
If you have been in an emotionally abusive relationship, you have every possible justification for feeling bad. At least, that will ring true for you – if that is how you look at what you have been through, and what you make your experience mean.
Some time back, I wrote an […]
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