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The Loneliness of the Emotionally Abusive Relationship
People, generally, underestimate the loneliness of the emotionally abusive relationship. Most commonly, the very people who suffer most from the loneliness of an emotionally abusive relationship – that is to say abuse victims – fear the loneliness of life without their abusive partner.
A misleading question
If things are so awful with that partner, how much worse […]
One Secret to Surviving a Narcissist When the Gloves Are Off
“How do I become unshakable?” my client asked me. Newly separated from her narcissistic partner – who sees no benefits to himself in ending the relationship – she was reeling from his constant mind games.
Like all Narcissists who are not ready for the relationship to end, he is throwing everything that he has at her, […]
A lesson only just learned from my Narcissistic ex
This week, I am enjoying one of those things that I had forgotten all about in the pandemic – a holiday.
But there was something I really wanted to share with you.
So I am channeling Mark Twain, who apparently said, “I didn’t have time to write a short letter so I wrote a long one […]
How the Need for Closure Can Get In the Way of Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
“I just want closure” my client said. Haven’t we all said that at some point? And what we meant was, approximately, that they would leave us with some kind of 4-5 star review on Relationship Trip Advisor. “Great nature, good heart, plenty of empathy, a warm loving environment. Can heartily recommend” our ex-partner would say. […]
How I Found The Courage To Leave An Emotionally Abusive Husband
Courage to leave an emotionally abusive husband is vital. It’s something that any woman who has ever been in an emotionally abusive relationship feels she lacks and desperately wants to find. Handed to her on a plate, preferably. Unfortunately, that’s not how it works.
If you’re struggling because you have yet t find the courage to […]
Why Narcissists can turn their backs on you so easily
Some Narcissists are long-stay, others not so much. Still, it always comes as a shock when the person who had vowed to love you, discards you like yesterday’s pizza box. When that happens, it is perfectly normal to end up asking yourself that most self-defeating question:
“How could they treat me that way?”
The question sucks, of […]
5 Things to Remember When You Feel Bad About the Narcissist’s Abuse
What do you do when you have been taught to feel that your feelings are not important? You turn all your hurt, wounded, disappointed feelings back on yourself. You blame yourself for the Narcissist’s bad treatment of you.
The self-recriminations that all survivors of narcissistic relationships are left with can prove the biggest obstacles to […]
Why Your Relationship with a Narcissist Just Won’t Work in a Nutshell
Nobody leaves an abusive relationship without having asked themselves, endlessly whether, if they had just done more, they could have kept it alive. The answer which, of course we all know but most of us struggle to believe, is that no amount of “more” would ever have been enough. At this point most survivors ask, […]
Were you, too, taught to protect your narcissistic parents’ feelings?
Narcissistic abuse is incredibly unsettling. It is an experience that messes with your brain, your heart, and your feelings. It affects you at every level of your being.
This morning, I was working with a new client who was struggling to understand herself. She has just separated from her narcissistic husband. He is now cycling through […]
The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse. Starting with the basics.
