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Bindweed
The summer of the year my divorce finally came through saw my garden covered with white flowers. I’d never seen it so festive.
Unfortunately things were not quite what they seemed…
Trying to eject my abusive husband from my life was one of the most tiring things I ever did. Because of the endless emotional turmoil.
Because I […]
Real Men Don’t Hit Women – part ii
The message: real men don’t hit women should be perfectly self-explanatory, but is it?
What exactly do we mean by the term “hit”?
And should we assume that if a man does NOT hit a woman he can’t be guilty of domestic violence?
Of course, things are not really that simple. That kind of generalization is misleading – […]
Real Men Don’t Hit Women
Real men do NOT hit women. That goes without saying. But if real men don’t hit women, what kinds of men do use physical violence against women.
The following categories are not mutually exclusive. Men who hit women alternate between the categories, depending on expediency, how much they regress at any given moment.
1) Playground bullies – […]
“Too miserable to stay, too frightened to leave”
Camilla said: “I’m frightened to tell him it’s over because…”
Is that something you’ve ever said? Have you ever settled for doing nothing for fear of making the situation worse? If you want to break free from the paralysis of a bad relationship, so you can begin to trust yourself, and value your life, I invite […]
Are You A Mind-Reader?
Have you ever wanted to do something really quite small, and not dared to?
That was exactly how Simona felt. The really interesting thing is what stopped her. It might be the same thing that’s been stopping you, too.
Simona wasn’t thinking about travelling halfway round the world on a whim, leaving her babies in the care […]
No fish, please!
How many more fish do you think there are in the sea for you?
Whether or not you feel ready for another relationship, or even want another relationship, I’m guessing you’ve been ‘programmed’ to believe you’re washed up, and the potential partner pool has been completely over-fished.
But is it true?
And, above all, is it […]
How To Stay Stuck In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship
A friend of mine stayed stuck for far too long in her emotionally abusive relationship with a man who was especially vile – even as abusers go.
As her friend, I did everything I could to support her. I did my level best to help her see her way out of her relationship.
But could I help […]
“Jeez, he was a jerk!”
Lana was a dear friend of mine for 10 years, before the light finally dawned and she – and I – realized my husband was emotionally abusive.
Strange to say, we both discovered what was ‘hidden in plain view’ around the same time.
Lana knew my husband quite well. She was someone he felt the need to […]
How to break the spell of abuse paralysis
Do you ever look at your situation, and ask yourself; “Why am I still struggling with this? Why can’t I just move on?”
If that sounds like you, let me tell you about Sarah…
Sarah couldn’t have been more frustrated and disgusted with herself. She knew exactly what she needed to do: she needed to stop giving […]
The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse. Starting with the basics.
