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How will you do happiness in 2014?
How will you do happiness in 2014?Now, I understand that you may have a lot of carking cares weighing you down, a lot of fears about the future, regrets about the past, and pressures in the present. Which may mean you don’t feel you even have the time, or the energy, to step back and […]
Christmas gifts you may not even be aware of
Christmas is nearly upon us – which means you have choices to make, as regards your emotionally abusive relationship.
Important choices.
You can tell yourself one of those feel-bad Christmas stories that emotionally abused women tell themselves about what you don’t have, and what doesn’t work for you… And I really, really hope you don’t, because I spent […]
Top Tips for Surviving Christmas If You’re An Emotionally Abused Woman
Don’t make the Christmas hype mean something about you. So, you don’t have the perfect, fantasy family. That was never your fault. You did the best you could. That’s a lot more than could be said for your emotionally abusive partner. You tried doing two people’s jobs. You actually did it rather well. It’s just […]
What Happens To Your Dreams In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship?
If you’re an emotionally abused woman, what’s happened to your dreams?
Were you someone who used to dream – before your emotionally abusive partner came along and shattered your dreams? Or were you – like me – someone who learned early on that dreams, and aspirations, weren’t ‘for the likes of you’?
My path as a wife, […]
“How come an emotional abuser gets to walk away, scot free?
“How come an emotionally abusive man gets to walk away scot free, on ‘his’ terms? And then, when he goes around bad-mouthing me, everyone believes him?” That’s what one client asked me this week.
It’s SO not fair, isn’t it?
In an ideal world, emotionally abusive men would get their just deserts. They’d be publicly named and […]
Do You Feel Trapped In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship?
How often have you felt trapped in your emotionally abusive relationship?
Feeling trapped is one of the key aspects of an emotionally abusive relationship. An emotionally abusive partner works hard to create an illusion of powerlessness within you. He wants you to have the sense that all your options have been closed down. So you feel […]
10 Lies You Swallowed About Emotional Abuse
Because he violated your trust, you’ve come to expect that everyone will violate your trust.
Because he told you that you’re worthless often enough, you’ve come to believe that you are worthless.
Because he presented you with his crazy, skewed view of the World so often, you’ve come to believe that it must be true.
Because he’s blamed […]
10 Things You Need to Know About Emotional Abuse
If you find what your emotionally abusive partner says – and does – hurtful, and damaging, that’s because it is hurtful and damaging. It’s not because you’re “too sensitive”. That’s just your emotionally abusive husband’s way of saying: “I should be able to say, and do, whatever I want. You should just shut up and […]
Have you experienced the shame of an emotionally abusive relationship?
Have you experienced the shame of an emotionally abusive relationship?
One of the core emotions of an emotionally abusive relationship is shame. All emotionally abusive partners are past-masters at manipulating shame, to their own advantage. From an emotionally abusive husband’s point of view shame is a wonderfully effective tool, which fits perfectly with the dynamic of […]
The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse. Starting with the basics.
