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Does Your Emotionally Abusive Partner Boggle Belief?
Is your emotionally abusive partner’s behaviour mind-boggling? Does his mind-boggling behavior make it even harder to recover from an emotionally abusive relationship? Do you find yourself asking: “Why on earth would anyone in their right mind do that?”
Not that I’m suggesting that he’s in his wrong mind. If, from where you stand, his behaviour looks […]
How Emotional Abuse Blinds You
Emotional abuse blinds you to so much that is truly important. That’s why Christmas and New Year are some of the worst days in the calendar for emotionally abused women. It’s the time of year when the media bang on about perfect, happy families – and I bang on about the media driving the sad, […]
How Much Do You Need to Hurt in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship?
“I have to give him another chance’, she said. “I’ve promised.”
He, needless to say, is a man who ‘has his moments – that is to say, an emotionally abusive partner’. He can promise her the good stuff: the Together Forever, the Everlasting Love, the Happiness Ever After quite convincingly. He’s just not terribly good at […]
“Too Blind to See”
Emotional abuse is always, ALWAYS tough. It may well be the toughest thing we ever suffer in our entire life.
Not because it is the worst thing. When you stand back and look at it, there are far sadder things than that. But there is an experience of awfulness attached to emotional abuse that you don’t […]
“Emotional abuse is subtle..”
“How can you even be sure it is emotional abuse?” asked the voice on the other end of the line, doubtfully. “It’s so subtle.”
Now, there are many things I would accuse an emotionally abusive husband of, but subtlety is not one of them. Crazy-making, manipulation, terminal judgmentalism, low cunning, and naked spite are just a […]
Does sympathy hamstring you, too?
The tears started, almost before my client spoke. Her situation was A-W-F-U-L. Her emotionally abusive partner was, seemingly, practising a scorched earth policy. My client was well aware of just how awful that was. So was I. But I also know this:
When a situation is really tough sympathy is the last thing anyone needs.
As an […]
Actually, emotional abuse is personal – but not in the way you think?
This week I experienced a powerful revelation that I want to share with you: emotional abuse really is personal… But NOT in the way you think.
As I write this, I’m exhausted and exhilarated, having spent the weekend on a wonderful, personal development training. I’ll admit I went in a sceptical frame of mind. In an […]
Top 10 Tips to Get Over An Emotionally Abusive Partner
Pay attention to what you tell yourself. If you want to recover from emotional abuse, but you’re telling yourself your emotionally abusive relationship has been so awful, and you’re so damaged you’ll probably never get over it, then you’re not doing yourself any good at all. You MUST learn how to stop that.
Don’t listen to […]
Oscar Pistorius Poster Boy for Domestic Violence Awareness Month
Could the outcome of the Oscar Pistorius trial have been much worse? Could it possibly have come at a more appropriate time than Domestic Violence Awareness Month?
It’s true, 300 hours of Community Service and House Arrest would have been worse, but the message Judge Masipa’s verdict sends to the world is deplorable: South Africa has […]
The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse. Starting with the basics.
