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How do you know what was true and what wasn’t in a narcissistic relationship?

When narcissistic abuse survivors look back, they remember the good times that they shared with their partner and get bogged down in confusion. Did they get it all wrong? Surely, the good times were the way they remember them? What are they to make of the whole relationship? Could the relationship be worth saving? And are they the party at fault? What really happened in the relationship?

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Am I the only one with double standards about betrayal?

The last two weeks have been filled, for me, with deep sadness over the death of our Queen and the end of an era which, overall, I think has been a pretty good one.

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9 Things a Narcissist Uses to Make You Fall Back in Love with Them

How often in your relationship with a narcissistic partner did you reach a point where you just couldn’t take anymore? But then things subsided, the Narcissist backpedalled  and you fell back in love with the person who you first met. Or, at least, wearily re-embraced your long-cherished, somewhat threadbare dream of what your relationship could […]

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How I wrested life wisdom from a failed strawberry cake

How I wrested life wisdom from a failed strawberry cake
What do you do when things go  wrong for you? The weekend before last, faced with a series of what felt like very important – albeit medium-sized – disasters, I was forced to review how I react to disasters. Far from passing the test with flying […]

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One big, confusing paradox of narcissistic abuse recovery

One big, confusing paradox of narcissistic abuse recovery
Have you ever felt confused – or even discouraged – about what it takes to heal from narcissistic abuse? If so, you are definitely not alone. Often times, it can feel like you need to be some kind of emotional octopus to juggle all the “balls” of recovery, […]

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How Do You Stop Loving A Narcissist When You Feel You Can’t?

How Do You Stop Loving A Narcissist When You Feel You Can’t?
Nobody ever walks away from a Narcissist without knowing that there is a great deal to dislike about that person. But that doesn’t mean that walking away is easy. On the one hand, you know full well the kind of awful person the Narcissist […]

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Can you codify the steps to healing from narcissistic abuse?

Can you codify the steps to healing from narcissistic abuse?
Today, I want to share with you the relatable steps not that you should take to healing from narcissistic abuse but the steps that you do take, in the hope that that will enable you to be kinder and more supportive towards yourself along the way. […]

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One big, fat narcissistic lie about love you need to recognise

One big, fat narcissistic lie about love you need to recognise
Where do you even start to disentangle the web of lies a Narcissist envelops you in? Narcissists make a point of lying right from the get go – because they are conmen and women who set out to sell you on the most attractive dream […]

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Could you be doing this harmful thing, too?

Abusers make you feel so resourceless that you need to be very grateful to them for whatever “resources” they deign to share with you – or more accurately boast about to you. Without your abuser – or so the legend goes – you would fail completely, in every area of our lives, And so we come to despair of ourselves. That despair can block you from rebuilding your life any time soon.

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The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse.  Starting with the basics.