Who Can You Trust After A Narcissistic Relationship?

Has a narcissistic relationship left you with trust issues? If so, you are by no means the only one – even though it might feel that way.

In reality, the issue of trust looms large. for anyone who has ever been in relationship with a Narcissist.  The reason for this is simple – longer you stay […]

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One thing that could help you to feel better about yourself in 2022

A New Year is traditionally the time for new Resolutions and a new start. It’s a time when we (try to) motivate ourselves to do things that we likely need to do and have an impressive number of ways to avoid in the old year.
I am not a great fan of New Year’s Resolutions. In […]

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Two Ways That You Could Be Kinder to Yourself this Christmas

Two Ways that You Could Be Kinder to Yourself this Christmas
Are you actually the kind of person who is kind to yourself at Christmas? Or throughout the year? Or are you the kind of person who prioritises being kind to other people and derives joy, above all, from seeing them happy?
If you are like most […]

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how not to make a special case of a Narcissist

You know how, in a narcissistic relationship, you end up always making excuses and allowances for them? On the one hand, you know that their behavior is awful but on the other, they have so much “potential” and the relationship is “special” and…

You know how, in a narcissistic relationship, you end up always making excuses […]

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How to talk to difficult people – that you really don’t want to talk to

If you were fortunate enough to live in abuse survivor heaven, you would never need to speak to a narcissistic ex-partner, parent or family member again.
Sadly, in the real world, that is not always what happens.
For one reason or another, you can feel it is incumbent on you to continue to have some kind of […]

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Why behaving like a normal adult around a Narcissist won’t work

“Our lives are all about communicating in an adult way. Sulkers can change with loving, people who teach them how to laugh; laughter is contagious. Please have a wonderful life—it’s Short.” So writes “Bettina Sweet” [really?] in the comments on my post about The Low-Down on Sulking.
Clearly, I am not as sweet a person as Bettina […]

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How An Emotionally Abusive Partner Becomes Irresistible To You

Many, many emotionally abused women tell me that their emotionally abusive partner “had them at Hello”. It was, they say, love at first sight. Other emotionally abused women say of their emotionally abusive partner, “I didn’t like him at first. But he was so keen on me that I… kind of let myself be frog-marched […]

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How good are you with  saying “Not my problem”?

How comfortable do you feel with drawing a line in the sand and saying, “You know what? This is actually your problem and I am not going to make it mine?”
Or does it make you feel uncomfortable because it was something that an abuser used to detach from you – most commonly when you most […]

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Is it me?

As a survivor of narcissistic abuse, how do those three little words, “Is it me?” connect with you?
When I saw them in my Inbox today, they made me feel very sad.
The email read,
“I keep thinking about joining the Break Free Membership. But then I think is it me? I try to think before I speak. […]

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The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse.  Starting with the basics.