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What really happens when you stop undervaluing yourself?
What really happens when you stop undervaluing yourself?
What do you think would really happen if you stopped undervaluing yourself, first name? Do you have a vague sense that if you could stop undervaluing yourself, you would feel more confident and things would surely go better for you. But (and we’re talking about a BIG, stumbling-block […]
How to Tell Whether Your Partner Really Is A Narcissist?
A client asked me the time honored question: “How do I tell whether or not my husband really is a Narcissist?” As she spoke of him two different images emerged: on the one hand, the smart, charming, graceful social operator; on the other, the irritable, petulant, irrational domestic tyrant. But, she wondered, di that domestic behavior make him a Narcissist? Or did it point to her woeful inadequacies as his partner?
What to do when you need answers not overwhelm
What to do when you need answers not overwhelm
About a million years ago Joni Mitchell first sang: “Maybe it’s just the time of year. Or maybe it’s the time of man.” Right now, it certainly feels like one of those times of man – and also woman, clearly.
Needing answers not overwhelm is a tough place […]
When You Can’t Make A Narcissist Understand Your Feelings
When You Can’t Make A Narcissist Understand Your Feelings
If you are in a Narcissistic relationship that just isn’t working there is something that you likely need to factor into your thinking: you are desperate to be heard. In fact, you are willing to do an awful lot of hitting your head against a brick […]
How can I protect myself from a narcissistic partner?
One of the first things that a Narcissist teaches you, once the lovebombing has reached its expiration date, is how to compromise. Needless to say, they don’t teach you by example. Narcissists are not big on making compromises. Instead, they teach you exerting as much psychological and emotional pressure as it takes to make you cave in to their wishes.You soon learn a pattern of more or less automatic compromise/capitulation to their demands that puts you forever on the defensive. Breaking free requires a few subtle mindset shifts.
4 Secrets to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
4 Secrets to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
Have you come across the oft quoted saying on Instagram: “A Narcissist doesn’t break your heart, they break your spirit, that’s why it takes so long to heal.” It’s one of my personal bugbears. I understand that it offers a certain gratification, inasmuch as it – rightly – […]
“Was I married to your husband?”
Abusive men are much more like one another than they are like anyone else. They are not your fault. We do them, and ourselves, no favours at all when we tolerate their bad behaviour. Like spoilt children, indulging them only allows them to become worse. But, as chronological adults, it is for them to take responsibility for their own behaviour; not us. No matter how much they may tell us that their bad behaviour is our fault, that doesn’t make it true.
4 Unexpected Life Lessons from a Lonely Cupcake
You could argue that Lonely was just a cupcake, my portion control was off, and why make a big deal about it in the first place. But that would be dismissive thinking and I would urge you to beware of dismissive thinking. It was the dismissive thinking of toxic people that led you to believe that your feelings didn’t matter, and it was okay for them to gaslight and isolate you and then blame you for it.
Are you still playing catchup and how to stop
Are you still playing catchup and how to stop
This week, I really want to talk to you about catchup. It’s far from being my favorite game but it is very much on my mind this week. But I’ve spent the last 24 hours playing catch up with myself.
Why?
Because my partner is struggling with his health […]
The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse. Starting with the basics.
