“The problem with strong, intelligent women is..”

06 Apr 2012

What do you suppose the problem with strong, intelligent women is?

According to actor Dennis Waterman:

“The problem with strong, intelligent women is that they can argue, well. And if there is a time where you can’t get a word in… and I… I lashed out. I couldn’t end the argument.”

If  Dennis Waterman says so, it must be true.  Strong, intelligent women are a problem because they expose the intellectual limitations, and lack of emotional sophistication of their Neolithic partners.

You can read more about it here:


It doesn’t make for a pleasant read, but Waterman’s account of his behavior towards wife #3 are enlightening, for any woman who asks herself, how can a man raise a hand to his partner?

Waterman duly:

  • expresses some kind of partial, token apology
  • minimizes his responsibility for his own behavior
  • creates  his own self-serving definition of domestic violence – by which a few slaps and the odd punch don’t qualify
  • excuses what he did on the grounds that the couple were going through a hard time
  • Uses weasel generalizations to justify his violence:  “It’s not difficult for a woman to make a man hit her.”
  • Suggests that he was, actually, a victim in the relationship
  • Expects that he will be heard, understood, and his conduct deemed acceptable.

Best of all, perhaps, with the attitude to women that he has, is that he’s now married to Mrs Waterman #4.

But that’s the thing, isn’t it?  Abusive – and violent – men can always find another partner.  There’s always someone , out there, ready to give them another chance.

Waterman says: “I’ve ended up with proper happiness.”  What a nice throw-away slight on his previous wives.   Sadly, he doesn’t provide us with his definition of “proper happiness”.  Nor can we be sure that Mrs Waterman #4 enjoys a lot of “proper happiness” with her emotionally unintelligent spouse.

But as long as Dennis is happy it’s probably alright, isn’t it?

Does he remind you, at all, of anyone, I wonder?




Annie Kaszina, international Emotional Abuse Recovery specialist and award-winning author of 3 books designed to help women recognise and heal from toxic relationships so that they can build healthy, lasting relationships with the perfect partner for them, blogs about all aspects of abuse, understanding Narcissists and how to avoid them and building strong self-worth. To receive Annie’s blog direct to your Inbox just leave your details here.

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