Women’s Emotional Abuse Recovery

No, Your Abusive Partner Was Not Your Fault

Abused empaths take responsibility for everything that happens to them – regardless of whether it is in any way their fault.  Abusers, on the other hand, spray accusations all around them like bullets, taking responsibility for precisely NONE of the mayhem that they cause.
According to their own narrative, abusers are never responsible for any of […]

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The Hidden Cost of The Good Times in a Narcissistic Relationship

 How do you accept that something that started out so good could turn to dust and ashes?  Surely, The Good Times that you shared with a Narcissistic Partner must count for something?
How do you make sense of what happened?
Survivors of a Narcissistic relationship have an extraordinarily hard time of it.  They struggle to make sense […]

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When You Still Love an Emotional Abuser

 “But I still love them…” say so many ex-partners of emotional abusers. These partners can tell stories of rejection, emotional cruelty and disrespect that would appall a half-way sympathetic bystander. How could anyone love such a callous, toxic monster? the bystander would wonder.
How indeed?
In an ideal world, the abuse survivor would simply turn the page […]

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How do you heal from emotional abuse?

How do you heal from emotional abuse? is a question that I get asked a lot. Most recently by a worker for a domestic violence charity. “There is”, she said, “ a lot of information about toxic people out there. There are a lot of online forums in which people can share experiences – which […]

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How much neglect have you suffered in your life?

Have you suffered with neglect in your life?  Before you even answer that, take a moment to think about what you understand by neglect. How does neglect relate to your narrative about your own experience?  You may never have considered yourself a poster girl for neglect, yet neglect may have impacted your life, from childhood […]

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What’s really going on?

Emotionally abused women must be the most loving, generous-hearted, forgiving people on the planet…  Or maybe, there is something else going on, as well that leads them to be SO long-suffering. In this article, we need to take a look at what else might be going on.
For the record, I do believe emotionally abused women […]

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Why Emotionally Abusive Love Is Not Real Love – 12 Key Differences

Emotionally abusive love is different
Emotionally abusive love is a weird thing.  You have a hunger for the Happily Ever After – quite possibly because, thus far, you have not had too much of the Happy in the Here and Now. So, when someone comes along promising lasting love, you embrace the possibility – even if […]

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Have You Struggled with a Complicated Relationship?

Have you ever been in a complicated relationship?  If so, did you tell yourself that the fact that it was a complicated relationship made the whole thing somehow more special? Something worth fighting for? In this article, we need to look at what makes a relationship complicated, together with the effects that those complications have […]

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What Makes Valentine’s Day So Toxic?

What kind of a relationship have you had with Valentine’s Day? And what useful information can that provide about your own relationship beliefs but also about the way that our culture views love and romance? That is what we shall be exploring in this culture. 
When I look back at my own life, from the time […]

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Emotional abuse is so subtle

“I didn’t realise that it was emotional abuse because it was just so subtle.” is something that a lot of emotional abuse survivors say.  Maybe you have said it yourself.  Some talk about how subtle their partner’s abuse was in the course of a relatively brief  – but damaging -relationship.  Others talk about a partner […]

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The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse.  Starting with the basics.