If you’re a woman who’s ended up in an emotionally abusive relationship, you’ve probably asked yourself a lot of questions.
You need to know that not all questions are equal.
Some questions are useful. Some are not.
“How could I be so stupid?” is not a useful question – not least, because of the presupposition that you’re stupid. […]
Has your emotionally abusive relationship taken over your life?
Living life – or, more correctly, trying to live life – as an emotionally abused woman is about as easy as trying to live with a family of elephants permanently parked right at the heart of your living space.
An emotionally abusive relationship fills all the space available.
Consciously, […]
Is suffering inevitable in an emotionally abusive relationship? It may feel inevitable. Buy let’s look at what’s really happening.
Have you come across the Buddhist saying: “Pain is inevitable: suffering is optional”?
It’s a powerful distinction.
When you get involved in an emotionally abusive relationship, you board a runaway train of pain and suffering. No doubt about that. […]
I’d like to wish you a heartfelt Happy 2013.
The New Year is always a meaningful, almost magical, time for me. It’s got nothing to do with Resolutions, and everything to do with happiness. I can be quite obsessive about wishing friends and loved ones a Happy New Year. It really matters to me to take […]
With Christmas drawing ever closer, it’s a great time to take stock, isn’t it?
Of course, there’s a lot of things we can take stock of, and we get to choose.
At least, you get to choose provided you don’t slip unawares into the Calamitous 3 Cs – that’s
comparing your life unfavourably with those Other People […]
How do you feel about indifference?
Is it a feeling that has much of a place in your life? Do you think it might deserve a bigger place than it currently has? Especially where your emotionally abusive husband is concerned.
Nobody teaches you to prize indifference.
We women are meant to live in a touchy-feely world, where indifference […]
We need to look at what you’re trying to change so you can feel happy and good about yourself.
Working with emotionally abused women, I can never fail to notice how they always focus their attention, and energies, on their partner. If only a woman can heal, or change, her emotionally abusive partner, then she will […]
Getting out of an emotionally abusive relationship is not easy. Getting over it can be hard, slow, and deliver endless hurts, humiliations, and set-backs along the way.
That’s how your emotionally abusive partner has designed it.
Once you become his plaything, he feels he has the right to pick you up, put you down, and […]
We need to look at what happens to you in an emotionally abusive relationship.
In some ways you don’t need me to tell you what happens; as an emotionally abused woman, you’re living it for yourself. Chances are, even if you’re out of the relationship, you’re still living with the emotional abuse to some degree. The […]
Let’s face it, there’s nothing like an emotionally abusive relationship for reducing your head to mush. You have so many things to worry about, you can’t even work out where to start.
One of the major concerns I hear is:
“I’m worried about hurting the children. (After all, they may just not have noticed they’ve been […]
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