Today, I’d like you to take a moment to think about how respectfully – or not – you listen to yourself. But first I’d like to share with you a little story of my own recent experience that might help clarify what I am talking about.
Last week, I had an eye operation. To say that […]
How did your narcissistic partner identify you as a suitable target from Day 1? What were their criteria – because people as calculating as Narcissists undoubtedly are surely had some criteria in mind?
How could they know, right from the get-go, that you were worth the trouble of pursuing – inasmuch as they ever did pursue […]
Have you ever thought that abuse has affected the way that you show up in the world? How could it not?
Intimate relationship abuse, inevitably, undermines your sense of self. That applies to all kinds of abuse from narcissistic and emotional abuse to mental, physical and sexual intimate relationship abuse, also.
But what I want to look […]
How do you cope with tough times when you don’t feel that you can cope? That is a problem that all survivors of an abusive relationship have to face – individually. Now, with the coronavirus pandemic, it is an issue that we all have to face both individually and collectively. This week, I want to […]
Wouldn’t it be nice if we only had to experience being ill-treated by one man, and we learned from it never to make certain mistakes again? For most of us, the reality is slightly different. We learn that a certain kind of man treated us badly, in a certain kind of way, and we resolve never to make that mistake again. Sadly, we don’t think that we could be vulnerable to different, but equally calamitous, mistakes. That is precisely why we repeat them.
I grew up with a lot of fear in my life. Perhaps you did, too. At the time, I couldn’t know it but I was actually deeply – and appropriately – frightened of emotionally abusive people. Those people were my family of origin.
My parents both came across as very powerful people. They expected unquestioning obedience; […]
To trust, or not to trust?
Should I stop trusting my emotionally abusive husband? is a question I am very rarely asked. This is actually quite surprising – when you think that I’ve spent 12+ years working with thousands of women who are waking up to the realization that they’ve been trapped in emotionally abusive relationships. […]
My problem is different because…”
“My problem is different because…” is something emotionally abused women tell me, all the time.
One woman explained, recently, that her problem was different – and quite possibly not emotional abuse…because her partner “loved her so much”. He didn’t say the hurtful things that most emotionally abusive men say. However, he did make her feel worthless.
Then […]
Just suppose there were 7 hidden rules of an emotionally abusive relationship. That would go a long way to explaining why so many good, intelligent people get hooked into exactly the kind of relationship they really don’t want.
The statistics tell us that 1 in 4 women will undergo domestic violence. Chances are that significantly understates […]
Why women stay with an emotionally abusive husband long after they should have left is a mystery to the people who stand on the sidelines looking on. Onlookers cannot understand what drives a woman to keep on giving a toxic relationship chance after chance, in the hope that it will mutate into something beautiful.
Even those […]
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