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This Got Me Thinking
An email landed in my Inbox this week that made me think. The writer was a man. He began, as male readers often do, by challenging the fact that I routinely speak of emotional abuse victims as ‘she’, and emotional abusers as ‘he’. He felt that his suffering – as a victim of emotional abuse – […]
“I used to be a feisty, confident woman…”
“I used to be a feisty, confident woman. But Mr Nasty has left me feeling small, frightened, and powerless”, one emotionally abused woman said to me this week.
Ain’t that the truth?
An emotionally abusive man has a real talent for pulling the rug out from under your feet, does he not? Before we meet Mr […]
I messed up
Last week I messed up.
Not for the first time and, doubtless, not for the last. But it’s still not my favorite activity. When you’ve been in an emotionally abusive relationship, it’s hard to deal with having messed up. Especially when, as last week, it was just public enough to – as I saw it – […]
Top 10 Ways to Be Hard on Yourself
You’ve been in an emotionally abusive relationship, right? Nobody deserves to go through that much pain. Mr Nasty’s specialist subject was Crime and Punishment – not as in the novel of that name, but simply as in spotting your crimes, and meting out punishment.
The problem is, he was such a natural at it, that what […]
Why It’s So Hard To Leave An Emotionally Abusive Husband
Six weeks into my marriage, I already knew something was terribly wrong – but I couldn’t work out what. Not for the life of me. couldn’t make sense of it. But the humiliation I felt at his rejections (yes, it had happened more than once, by then) was killing. So, what did I do?
I did what most […]
The Lesson You Might Be Missing
Is there a lesson from your emotionally abusive relationship that you might be missing? Let me tell you what I mean.
The thing in my life that nearly – so very nearly – sank me was taking lessons from my experiences: the wrong lessons. The thing in my life that has saved me has been learning […]
“Who will he be, next?”
“How could he do that? Will he ever change?” D. asked anxiously about her emotionally abusive partner. She’d reached the end of the line with him, she said. Like a lot of emotionally abused women, she really wanted to let go, be, be free, and move on. But she couldn’t leave her emotionally abusive relationship […]
Two Conversations, One Revelation
Two clients, that I spoke with yesterday, in the space of two hours, 5000 miles and 20 years apart – what did they have in common? They were both emotionally abused women struggling with the same problem: how to stop feeling so tortured and get their lives back.
Both are amazing, talented women who have totally […]
Is He A “Humiliator”?
Have you ever felt humiliated by an emotionally abusive partner? An emotionally abusive relationship really is the high road to never ending humiliation, isn’t it? And humiliation has a toxic effect on the way you feel about yourself.
An emotionally abusive relationship is the high road to ongoing, endless humiliation TWEET THIS
Mostly, you struggle with the humiliation […]
The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse. Starting with the basics.
