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What “You’re Not Good Enough” Really Means
“You’re not good enough”
“You’re not good enough!” is one of those things that emotional abusers say all the time. Admittedly, they may phrase it slightly differently. They may say: “You’re not attractive enough”, or “You’re not bright enough” or else, “You don’t deserve someone as wonderful as me.”
Since “You’re not good enough” is one of […]
How To Protect Children From Emotional Abuse – What Really Matters.
How do you protect children from emotional abuse when you don’t protect yourself? A relationship with an emotionally abusive partner is fraught with terms and conditions. In their attempts to – try to – make the relationship, victims of abuse have to prioritize their partner’s feelings, and put themselves last.
The price of staying in an […]
Why Is My Partner Emotionally Abusive Like That?
Why is my partner emotionally abusive like that? is one of the key questions that emotional abuse survivors ask themselves. The question presupposes that there are only two possible explanations as regards the reason why a partner is emotionally abusive like that.
Why is my partner emotionally abusive like that? Explanation #1. Because he is […]
Will Counselling Help With Emotional Abuse?
Will counselling help with emotional abuse? That is a question that women frequently ask. It is a question that goes right to the heart of the problem that victims of emotional abuse face. Here’s why:
Before you ask will counselling help with emotional abuse
Before you can begin to answer the question will counselling help with emotional […]
Is Divorcing An Emotionally Abusive Husband The Right Decision?
Is divorcing an emotionally abusive husband the right thing to do? asks Lauren, thereby summing up the dilemma of every emotionally abused woman.
No emotionally abused woman that I have ever worked with has woken up one day and thought, “How about divorcing my emotionally abusive husband? That should be fun.”
Divorcing an emotionally abusive husband is […]
Can An Emotional Abuser Ever Change?
Can an emotional abuser ever change – the question deconstructed
Can an emotional abuser ever change? asks Marie. It’s a perennial question that I have already touched on. But that’s not Marie’s real, big, burning question. The real underlying question – the one that feeds her Hopium Addiction – is “Can my emotional abuser ever change?”
Her […]
How To Break The Cycle of Emotional Abuse
How do you break the cycle of emotional abuse? Especially when a big part of your self-worth is still invested with your abusive (ex) partner?
Over the years, the majority of abused women that I’ve worked with wanted to break the cycle of emotional abuse. However they struggled to cut off contact with him, not least […]
Do You Need Emotional Abuse Help, Too?
How do you know if you need emotional abuse help? It should be blindingly obvious. However, when you live in an abusive relationship, everything becomes shrouded in an impenetrable emotional fog. At best, you have a dim perception of what should be true – and what is, doubtless, true for everyone else.
So, just in case […]
The 7 Hidden Rules Of An Emotionally Abusive Relationship
Just suppose there were 7 hidden rules of an emotionally abusive relationship. That would go a long way to explaining why so many good, intelligent people get hooked into exactly the kind of relationship they really don’t want.
The statistics tell us that 1 in 4 women will undergo domestic violence. Chances are that significantly understates […]
The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse. Starting with the basics.
