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Emotional abuse steals your happiness. If I had to pick one key effect of “abuse”, it would be that.  Only an emotionally abusive relationship will leave you feeling so profoundly unhappy and racked by doubt.

Any emotionally abusive relationship is a journey, from hope, to hurt, to despair. There is a bit of happiness at the […]

10 Things That Make Healing Harder
If you have been in an emotionally abusive relationship, you have every possible justification for feeling bad. At least, that will ring true for you  – if that is how you look at what you have been through, and what you make your experience mean.
Some time back, I wrote an […]

When did you first realize something was wrong with your relationship? When did you first sense that your emotionally abusive partner was not really the right man for you?
Actually, that is a bit of a trick question.
If you are like most other women who end up in an emotionally abusive relationship, you had already met […]

How do you stop living in Abuse World when an emotionally abusive partner has spent months and years programming you to feel terrified, and powerless? How do you stop living in Abuse World, when you have been so brainwashed that you end up thinking that Abuse World is an accurate reflection of The World?  That […]

Do you still love your emotionally abusive partner?  If the answer is “Yes” then your feelings are conflicted, chaotic, and confusing.  You go round and round in circles inside your own head.
If you admit that you still love your emotionally abusive partner to other people, most will express their disbelief – and judgment. You should […]

Why does he want me to be unhappy? My client asked.  She had travelled beyond that stage of denial when you say, “Yes, but he loves me really.” She had stopped obsessing about what he was really thinking. Now she wanted the truth – even if that truth was hard to swallow.
Maybe that doesn’t sound […]

Was I emotionally abusive? is something that emotionally abused women ask themselves – often over and over again.  The fact that the victims of emotional abuse repeatedly ask themselves, Was I emotionally abusive? Is what happened my fault? should tell you everything you need to know. Not least that they could not see an emotionally […]

Do you still want to change an emotionally abusive partner – or ex-partner? Do you tell yourself that you could still have a good life together? Or else do you want to put past conflicts behind you and relate to each other in the future as civilized human beings? If that sounds like you, there […]

The 5 Secrets emotional abusers do NOT want you to know invariably come as a massive surprise to anyone who has ever been in an emotionally abusive relationship. Yet, in some ways, they really should not.  In reality, the secrets emotional abusers do not want you to know are hidden in plain sight. They are […]