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Do you ever feel angry, ashamed, broken or despairing?  Do you ever look at other people feel worth less by comparison?  If you do, then ( despite what you may be telling yourself) you are NOT in any way fatally flawed.  However, you are highly likely to be an empath who is still paying the […]

 In all my years working with survivors of emotional abuse, not one client has ever said, “You know, Annie, I want to be more emotionally resilient.”  Rather they tell me, “I need to have more confidence. I need to be stronger and braver. I need to stop loving – or hating – my partner.  I […]

How was New Year’s Day for you?
When I was with the wasband, New Year’s Eve always felt like a momentous time.  Chiefly because I was always glad to see the back of another terrible year   Every year was terrible because every year is terrible when you have a toxic partner.  There is so much that […]

 It is, of course, that time of year again when all of us are meant to submit ourselves to The Great Christmas Exam. How have we done on the Great Christmas Syllabus? Can we boast belonging to a happy family of origin?  Are we successfully coupled up? Do we have the requisite Great Relationship with […]

Loving an abusive Narcissist is an experience that turns on its head everything you ever thought you knew about people and human values.  However, it also serves to teach the heart-led empath a number of crucial life lessons  – albeit lessons that the empath might have preferred not to see.  In this article we shall […]

Anyone who ever leaves an emotionally abusive relationship, faces a shedload of problems. Not least among these is how you get other people to see the truth. That usually turns out to be far harder than it should be. In this article, we shall look at why that is and what you can do to […]

How do you accurately assess the cost of the Narcissist’s charm to you? And, if you have fallen for a Narcissist’s charm before, how can you protect yourself in the future?  In this article we shall be looking at how a slight tweak  in your own thinking may prove the best protection of all, going […]

How do you know if you are, or have ever been, a Hopium Addiction? In this article, the time has come to revisit Hopium Addiction and look at the part that this damaging behavior may have played in your life.  As with any damaging behavior, it is important to consider  how to overcome this thing that […]

What part does gaslighting play in your thinking? How often do you stop to to think about how gaslighting affects the way that you show up in the world? Obviously, by gaslighting I don’t mean a means of lighting the darkness that preceded the marvels of electric lighting.  Rather, in this article I want to […]