Women’s Emotional Abuse Recovery

 Love-bombing is not love
All toxic relationship start with a degree of love-bombing. Love-bombing is not love. Once the Narcissist/ emotional abuser/sociopath) has decided that you are their “mark” they start to shower you with love – or whatever the best approximation of love is that they can manage. Exclusive, too-much-too-fast, demanding – faintly icky love.  […]

“Why can’t they just love me back?” is the question that obsesses the partners of narcissists and emotional abusers. The same question, “Why can’t they just love me back?” also obsesses – and drives to the brink of despair and craziness – the children, and parents, of narcissists and emotional abusers. It’s incredibly hard to […]

Who doesn’t need an apology when they feel they have been wronged?  Not me, certainly.  I am a stickler for an apology.  I guess you are, too.  Especially if a person has grown up in a family where they experienced a lot of unfairness, they are likely to struggle with unfair treatment.
What unfairness tells you
The […]

When everything has to be a drama
Life with my emotionally abusive wasband, and with my parents before that, was full of drama.  I can’t say that I ever liked drama.  It was just the way things were. Drama was one of those things that pointed to their superiority.  As the wasband once said, “At least, […]

Did your narcissistic and emotionally abusive partner tell you how wonderful they are?  Did they keep telling you how lucky you were to have them?
And did they do that in between telling you what a worthless wife, mother, lover and human being you were?
Most of the time these “wonderful” partners sound so persuasive – and […]

A dear friend of mine is going through a very tough time. Someone she loves who should have behaved much, much better has let her down big time. It’s as if an enormous abyss has opened up under her feet. From where she stands, there is no way she can go except down. And down.
How […]

Have you ever suffered with an intimate partner who lies to you? Have you struggled to understand why they lie, when they lie, and what they actually mean by the lie?
In this article, we’re going to be looking at why emotional abusers and narcissists lie to you. And in order to clear up the confusion […]

Have you tried and failed to get a narcissistic or abusive partner to understand that what they’re doing is really, really hurtful to you? Have you wondered why it is that you just can’t make narcissistic and abusive partners see things from your point of view?
In this article we’re going to be looking at the […]

Have you ever wondered what love really means to the narcissist or abuser?  Have you ever wondered what goes through their head?  And why it is that what goes on in their heads does not coincide with what goes on in the head of their much put-upon partner? Nowhere is this divide more apparent than […]

Have you ever asked yourself, “Why does my partner behave so badly? “Why are they SO mean to me?” If you have, that is perfectly normal.  That is one of the key questions that all partners of abusers and Narcissists ask themselves.   This article will provide you with the answer that you need about why […]