That’s a serious question, and one I’d like you to think about for a moment: how do you know who you are? (Most emotionally abused women really DON’T know.) Maybe it will help you if I rephrase it:
How do you get a sense of who you are?
Where does that sense come from?
And who would […]
“Dear Annie, What can you do when you have been out of the relationship a while and you’re on a sort of plateau? Life is better (obviously), and you no longer need to “fight” as much, with yourself or him, but you know you’re nowhere near over it? How do you move on from there?” […]
Burying your hurts and your pain may once have been the best way you had of dealing with them.
If you knew, from bitter experience, that you were not going to get your needs met, and your hurts acknowledged, what else could you do?
Unfortunately,“Feelings buried alive never die” as Karol K Truman rightly observes in the […]
The last 12 days have been the hardest of my life.
It began when my beloved partner was rushed into hospital where he spent 48 hours in Intensive Care, on a respirator, heavily sedated.
We have not been together long – less than three years – and we are not married. But he is my partner in […]
My client was struggling with what she needed to do. She had not one man but two in hot pursuit. One was her ex-partner who – in the way of abusive men – had discovered he ‘truly loved her’ now she wasn’t returning his texts or phone calls any more. The other was her self-appointed […]
“I still don’t understand my own behavior. When my partner started pushing me around physically, I left. Before that, I let him literally run my life! He was emotionally abusive and had HUGE control issues. Yet, I didn’t see his behavior for what it truly was for a very long time. I just coped, and […]
The questioner, Omar Reyes, of www.icansurvivedomesticviolence.com, answers his own question thus:
“I say that you never fully recover. The scars are always there. But there are various strategies that can be used to help you regain your confidence and your self-esteem…”
I disagree with him, on the grounds of my own experience, the experience of the […]
You may find what I‘m about to say upsetting, but I believe it’s something you really need to hear, if you want to put your life back together.
It’s something that hit me, as much as the delegates at the 7 Wounds Workshop last week.
And it’s all about happiness.
See, I’m guessing nobody ever taught you how […]
Does “chemistry” matter?
Most women seem to think it does. In fact, most of the women I’ve worked with say they couldn’t contemplate a relationship with a man, unless they feel more or less instant chemistry with him.
If he’s a nice guy, but there’s no chemistry, then they don’t consider him partner material.
Whereas, if there is […]
What makes a woman stand out?
Good looks don’t hurt. But, if it were just a matter of looks, then your life would probably have taken a very different path. Because one thing I know is this: it’s NOT because you are less attractive, less intelligent or less worthwhile than anyone else that you’ve ended up […]
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