What place does fun have in your life?
Has an abusive relationship left you feeling like a hollow shell? Or a pale shadow of the person you really are?
An abusive relationship revolves around his feelings, and his hypersensitivity to offence, where you’re concerned. How many times did he work himself up into a frenzy of indignation […]
Did you know there are two things that stand in the way of you being happy right now?
According to Alexandra Watson (The Happiness System) these two things may well not be what you think. She says:
“…two things hold you back from being happy right now. The first is a lack of self-awareness or knowledge about […]
When Life gets really difficult, what do you want?
Massive change.
Ideally, most of us – barring the almost pathologically self-reliant – wouldn’t say no to a Fairy Godmother coming along, waving her magic wand, and making it all alright.
Can you picture it now? I certainly can. She’s a cartoon Fairy Godmother, with snowy white hair, and […]
Catherine wrote to ask me how she can beat the abusive programming that’s still running in her head. Here’s her story in her own words:
”I’m a hairdresser, and 3 years ago a gentleman sat in my chair and I slowly and cautiously fell in complete love with him! He asked me out for months before I […]
There’s a killer question that abused women always ask themselves at some point. That question is:
“How can I ever trust again?”
Every woman I’ve worked with who’s been in an emotionally abusive relationship – including myself – has asked it.
Why wouldn’t we?
We’ve been in a relationship with a man who – systematically – betrayed our trust.
Please […]
“Why can’t he behave like a normal person?” Geri asked.
Because I was pushed for time, but wanted to reply, I gave her the short answer. I’ve no doubt your head already knows the answer as well as I do, but maybe your feelings play tricks on you, just like Geri’s feelings do.
The short answer goes […]
Last week, I listened to an interview on Desert Island Discs with Lord Victor Adebowale, who started his working life as a street sweeper and went on becoming one of Britain’s rare black life peers. It was an inspirational interview, thanks to Lord Adebowale’s mental attitude. You can listen to the interview here:
http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio4/features/desert-island-discs/castaway/40871661#b016kgtz
When asked about […]
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if, once an abusive relationship broke up, all the emotional damage magically disappeared? Just the way some people wish it would, when they don’t understand – and don’t want to understand – about the reality of emotional abuse.
You and I know it’s not that easy. There are layers and layers of […]
“Annie, I don’t know what to do. Things really are better with my husband,. He’s trying hard. But when communication breaks down between us, I start telling myself it’s hopeless, and I have to leave – even though that’s the last thing I want to do do. Help, please.”
Dear Wanda,
You and I have been in […]
Farrah is someone who has put a LOT of effort into getting over an abusive relationship. She’s read a lot, thought a lot, and tried a lot of things, including counselling, without feeling a whole lot better. And, like most of the women I work with, she was struggling stoically. She’s come to accept that […]
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