Common things occur most commonly. Miracles are known to be a bit harder to come by… And abused women tend to have a really, really bad gambling habit, don’t they? Inasmuch as they gamble on getting the one miracle they want, which is…
Their very own Mr Nasty shedding his fangs, sheathing his claws, doing a […]
One of my abusive ex-husband’s favorite sayings in the whole world was: “You don’t understand. You just don’t understand…” It was delivered with a shake of the head, and an expression of either anger or disappointment, depending on my crime or misdemeanour.
My inability to understand was one of the great disappointments of his life – […]
If you’ve ever had a child, or been a child yourself, you probably know the song “Heigh ho” from “Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs”. Strange as it may sound, emotionally abused women have a similar work ethic to the Seven Dwarfs. Remember these lines?
“We dig dig dig dig dig dig dig in our mine
the […]
One thing that makes it so hard to move on for all abused women, including Adele (who we met in last week’s ezine) is the legitimate sense of grievance we have. We have been wronged, big time. So, it would be nice to have some acknowledgement of the wrong that’s been done to us – […]
Adele’s eyes filled with tears as she said: “I can’t bear for people to hate me.” Who were those “people” she was talking about? Why, her abusive ex-partner, and his family – of course. The same family, you understand, who had welcomed her with open arms, and even told her – rightly – what a […]
“Don’t mind if I fall apart, there’s more room in a broken heart” as Carly Simon famously sang (Coming Around Again) As you know to your cost, an abusive man doesn’t need those words of reassurance. He really won’t mind if you fall apart – provided you do it quietly enough. Of course, if you […]
Emotionally abused women are a tender-hearted lot. You could say we’re too tender-hearted for our own good. When we fall in love we tend to treat our beloved too well, for too long. Especially when he turns into a jerk.
There’s nothing wrong with loving a man well and long. However, these days I’m only prepared […]
Have you ever had that sinking feeling when you discovered you were doing something you hoped you never would? Like turning into your mother? (Ouch!)
This week, I had one of those moments when I was talking with my lovely mentor, Alexandra Watson. We were talking about what gets in the way of women’s happiness. (In […]
There’s something a tad controversial that I need to say. If you’ve ever been in an abusive relationship, need to know that somehow, at some point in your life, you were programmed to be “a victim in waiting”. It’s not who you truly are, and it’s absolutely NOT an accurate reflection of your inner courage […]
Isn’t it fascinating the power Other People have over our thinking?
This week, Becky wrote with a problem Other People (OP) kindly pointed out to her: “People tell me I’m too kind-hearted. But I can’t be a bitch, it’s just not in me. Am I destined to spend my life as a good-natured door mat?”
Ouch!!! Don’t […]
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