What is it that makes a bright, attractive woman stay in a relationship – a bad relationship – with an emotionally abusive man? What gets in the way, and stops her from moving on, so she can recover from emotional abuse?
In the end, it doesn’t make a lot of sense.
Sure, emotionally abusive partners fall […]
There are a few things you need to understand about Little Johnny Manger, who we spoke about last week.
He’s the guy who makes such an unpleasant bedfellow – your unpleasant bedfellow; that’s something really important to understand. But he’s also pretty smart. His emotional age is DEFINITELY a single figure, and most probably a fairly […]
“You have to allow me to spend quality time with my children, I said to my emotionally abusive husband. You’re being unreasonable. Why can’t you just behave reasonably towards me? I’ve always tried to do everything I can to make you happy.”
You’d think, wouldn’t you, that a partner should show some consideration – especially where […]
Does your emotionally abusive partner deserve your forgiveness?
It’s an important question.
Emotionally abused women frequently ask me the Forgive and Forget question. It goes, approximately, like this:
“How do I forgive my emotionally abusive husband so that I can forget about what happened, reclaim my sanity, recover from emotional abuse, and move on?”
It’s a bad question.
Just look […]
How do you cope when times are tough?
My own experience, and that of my many clients, suggests that we get caught up in the emotions of a situation. When life slaps a glass -or a bucket – of bitter aloes in front of us, what do we do? We tend to drain it – dutifully […]
Like emotional abusers the world over my emotionally abusive ex was NOT a nice man. As time has moved on, I’ve put more distance between him and me, and healed progressively. As I’ve healed, there has been a constant effort on my part to make as much sense as I possibly could out of the […]
This week my mother died. After a slow, ugly decline into dementia, with all its horrible trappings.
It was not a good death – at least, as far as I can tell.
It was that much tougher because my relationship with her – with all my family of origin – broke down very badly many years ago.
And […]
As someone who’s been in an emotionally abusive relationship,you know just how hard it is to be happy when there is a black hole at the center of your life. The problem is you’re in a Catch 22 situation. You can’t be happy because living with an emotionally abusive partner is so awful. But until […]
Rosie’s emotionally abusive husband had been driving her mad. She had not had a good week, she said. She’d tried to keep things pleasant enough with him, but he wasn’t having any of it. When asked what he wanted for dinner, he “didn’t care”. He was monosyllabic when spoken to. When my client asked if […]
Not everyone is accountable. Everyone should be accountable for their own words and deeds, no doubt about it. But emotional abusers have a curious relationship with accountability, a relationship of two sides. The same kind of relationship they have with everything.
On Planet Zog, the emotional abusers’ world, Other People – that is, YOU – are […]
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