This week I experienced a powerful revelation that I want to share with you: emotional abuse really is personal… But NOT in the way you think.
As I write this, I’m exhausted and exhilarated, having spent the weekend on a wonderful, personal development training. I’ll admit I went in a sceptical frame of mind. In an […]
Could the outcome of the Oscar Pistorius trial have been much worse? Could it possibly have come at a more appropriate time than Domestic Violence Awareness Month?
It’s true, 300 hours of Community Service and House Arrest would have been worse, but the message Judge Masipa’s verdict sends to the world is deplorable: South Africa has […]
You’re not crying over spilt milk, are you?
A relationship with an emotionally abusive partner is guaranteed to leave you floundering in a sea of regret. You regret what happened, and what didn’t happen, what you said and did – and what you didn’t say and do in your emotionally abusive relationship. You regret what might […]
“Do emotionally abusive men get better when they are older? Will he get better as he ages now that I’m gone?” was one interesting query I received this week.
I’m afraid I couldn’t help myself. My knee-jerk response was:
“He’s not a cheese, and he’s not a fine wine. He’s not even a fruit cake – that […]
“How could he do that to me?” is a question emotionally abused women always ask themselves. And me. Underlying their question is the belief that there is no good answer.
They’re right, of course.
But then it’s not about goodness, at all. Goodness has NOTHING to do with it.
And it’s not just about your emotionally abusive partner. […]
When you’ve been in an emotionally abusive relationship, you live with the belief that you can never recover from emotional abuse and be at peace until your emotionally abusive partner acknowledges what a jerk he was. Not that he is ever going to do that – which means that the rest of your life could […]
When you’ve been in an emotionally abusive relationship, you live with the belief that you can never recover from emotional abuse and be at peace until your emotionally abusive partner acknowledges what a jerk he was. Not that he is ever going to do that – which means that the rest of your life could […]
Everything has a purpose; even an emotionally abusive relationship. That’s what I choose to believe. Not least because it serves me far better than any other belief I’ve yet found – or heard – about emotionally abusive relationships.
So, what could possibly be the purpose of an emotionally abusive relationship?
You might well ask.
When I was […]
“Who matters to you?” is one question I rarely ask emotionally abused women; and there’s a reason why I don’t. That reason is simple: I don’t need to. Any emotionally abused woman I speak with will tell me very, very quickly.
In fact, there’s just one thing they might tell me before they get round to […]
Why do you love an emotionally abusive man? What keeps you from walking away, at top speed, once you start to see that you’ve got a BOGOF (Buy One Get One Free) – Mr Hyde as well as Dr Jekyll? What makes it so hard to walk away from a relationship which, at some level, you […]
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