What happens when you learn to walk on eggshells?
Have you ever walked on eggshells around an emotional abuser? Did you learn how to walk on eggshells from an early age? Has walking on eggshells become a way of being that affects every area of your life – whether or not you are still with an […]
Why abandonment escapes attention
Emotional abuse and abandonment go hand in hand. Yet abandonment is not something that most people give a great deal of thought.
Why don’t we make that association between emotional abuse and abandonment?
A couple of reasons spring to mind. First, doubtless, because of the understandable, human desire to see things as we want […]
What makes a family not feel like family? When I say family, by the way, I use the blanket term quite deliberately. That family may mean one or both parents, or one or more siblings – even one or more children. Either way, when a family behave as if they are not your family, the […]
Let’s hear it for Divorce Monday!
Divorce Monday, first official day of Divorce Month (aka January) is the one day in the whole festive calendar that every emotionally abused woman ought to celebrate. I say this as someone who failed to celebrate quite a few – despite regularly going through the Christmas and New Year from Hell […]
Christmas is the hardest time
For emotionally abused women Christmas can be the hardest time of year. The hype of Christmas becomes a magnifying glass through which everything that’s not right with their lives is judged – remorselessly.
Of course, that begs the question: by whom is it judged?
Obviously, by those people in their lives who first […]
“ Emotional abuser, or narcissist, Annie?” E. asked. For a lot of women, whether or not their partner is an emotional abuser – or Narcissist – becomes the most important question. Someone has to be accountable for the mayhem in the relationship. If their resident tormentor and fault-finder is emotionally abusive and/or a Narcissist, then he is, […]
I don’t normally talk about bodily functions – because I have standards, too. But this could be one of the most important pieces of information I’ve ever shared about emotional abuse. That’s why I’m prepared to stick my neck out – even to the point of using that ‘F’ word!
Because it feels so important to […]
Why you can’t just “bounce back”
Emotional abuse is not something you just bounce back from. If someone simply said something hurtful and unfair to you a few times then, chances are, you would bounce back. But that’s not how emotional abuse works, is it?
Emotional abuse is systematic, deliberate, long-term, and tailor-made to chip away at […]
Where do you start your recovery from emotional abuse? When you’ve been in an emotionally abusive relationship for a while, there comes a time when you realize that something is profoundly wrong. There’s a lot of unhappiness, and a lot of accusations and put downs; nothing ever seems to get resolved; in fact nothing seems […]
It can be hard to see what makes an emotionally abusive partner so attractive – unless we’re talking about your emotionally abusive partner; in which case none of the usual, normal criteria apply. As a general rule, emotionally abusive partners are dogmatic to the point of arrogance, self-important, opinionated, inconsiderate, self-centred, touchy, a tad humorless, […]
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