How to leave a coercive controlling partner is the very last thing most people think about. Recent episodes of the Archers have left listeners reeling: that kind of domestic violence doesn’t happen in Ambridge – except that now it has. And what a blessing it is that it has. Because Domestic violence is no respecter […]
Cutting of contact with an emotionally abusive ex is never easy to do. There are always compelling reasons – some real, others that just feel real – why you need to stay in touch. If you have children in common then you will, likely, need to have some contact with him for years to come. […]
The 3 stages of an emotionally abusive relationship is not something you’re likely to think consciously about when you are caught up in it.
Rule #1 of an emotionally abusive relationship is this:
An emotionally abusive relationship is designed to ensure you are too off kilter to think clearly.
That is how the relationship is designed – and, […]
‘Do emotionally abusive men know they are abusive?’ is a question often asked by their emotionally abused partners.
Why do victims of abuse need to ask?
Because they are looking for an answer that will make them feel better.
Do emotionally abusive men know they are abusive? – the preferred answer
When emotionally abused women ask “Do emotionally abusive men know […]
Behind Closed Doors, the BBC’s expose of domestic violence aired last night – and I, for one, found a lot to dislike about it. Of course, there is a lot to like and commend. The police force involved was supportive and sensitive. The absurdly lenient Court treatment of 2 of the 3 perpetrators was deplorable, […]
Emotional abuse makes you poor. That is a simple fact of life. Any woman who has ever been in an emotionally abusive relationship knows to her cost that the relationship makes you way poorer than you ever deserved to be. In every conceivable way.
Yet most women struggle to understand why this was bound to happen, […]
Are you too sensitive for an emotionally abusive partner? Is that – another – fault he reproaches you with? Is it possible that he could be right, albeit for entirely the wrong reasons?
This weekend, I held my first workshop in Denmark, for a wonderful group of Danish women. Fortunately, their English is wonderful, since my Danish […]
What are the top 10 things you need to know about emotional abuse? As I prepare to head off to give my first workshop in Denmark about emotional abuse, I’ve been asking myself: “What is the most valuable, transformational information I can provide an audience with?” And also: “What are the top 10 things to […]
Who do you learn how to deal with abusive people from?
How to deal with abusive people is, quite probably, one of the most essential recovery skills you need to learn. It’s also the skill that abusive people really don’t want you to learn, for obvious reasons.
Normally, the people from whom you learn how to deal […]
Emotional abuse leaves you feeling hopeless. It’s blindingly obvious. I have yet to meet a single emotionally abused woman who hasn’t experienced intense feelings of hopelessness. And yet nobody actually recognizes how profoundly those feelings affect them.
Certainly, emotional abuse does strange things to the victim’s brain.
I’m not going to try to blind you with science […]
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