The relationship with a narcissist or emotional abuser is guaranteed to take you to rock bottom. By the time you decide you can’t take any more, your self-belief has been shattered into tiny pieces. Before you can rebuild, you need someone to believe in. But where do you find that someone to believe in? And what is […]
Why leaving emotionally abusive husbands is hard
When I left my emotionally abusive husband life was hard. Needless to say, he did everything he could to make it hard. Of course, I couldn’t know that. All that I did know – and repeated to myself like a mantra was this, “I can’t be happy because of […]
Walking on eggshells is something you learn to do
Walking on eggshells is one of the things you learn to do early on in an emotionally abusive relationship. An emotionally abusive partner soon teaches you that the journey with him will always be generously strewn with eggshells. Although it may take you a while to understand […]
Here in the UK it has NOT been a good time with 4 terrorist attacks in what seems like no time at all. That forces a person to think about the nature of terrorism. That, in turn, got me thinking about the nature, and not-so-hidden agenda of emotional abuser, narcissists and all emotional terrorists.
The aim […]
Were you groomed for an emotionally abusive relationship? A lot of us were. That’s why we stayed with an emotionally abusive partner.
A groomer works to paralyze you
If only we had been able to avail ourselves of our common sense – and a sense of self – we would have done something very different. But a […]
How can you tell if you are in an emotionally abuse marriage?
Actually, for the longest time, you don’t. You don’t spot that crazy-maker because you can’t. Before you ever work around to the possibility of the relationship being abusive, you have to work through all the other possibilities.
Explanations That Don’t Explain Crazy-Making
You look for explanations […]
What stops you healing from emotional abuse? Most emotional abuse survivors – including me, back in the day – would argue that what stands in the way of healing is the damage done to you by the experience your abuser has put you through. Certainly that damage is massive. However, there is more as well.
What […]
How do you spot an emotional abuser by their conversation? What are the signs that – if only you had been able to spot them early on – could have saved you a ton of unhappiness and trouble? (As well as a mountain of hurt, humiliation, and mental, emotional, and financial expense.)
First off, let’s look […]
Emotional abuse recovery was never intended to be easy. That was the master-plan of the person – who took you into that mess in the first place. In reality, a weird unspoken contract occurred. Your emotionally abusive partner may well have promised to rescue, love and make you feel good about yourself. In reality, all […]
“I need to be more assertive.” my lovely client said, shaking her head in disappointment at herself. “I should have been able to…”
There followed any one of the following list that we have all said to ourselves at one time or another.
“I should have…”
Stood up for myself.
Said “No”.
Walked away.
Come out with a really good reply.
Le […]
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