Does “chemistry” matter?
Most women seem to think it does. In fact, most of the women I’ve worked with say they couldn’t contemplate a relationship with a man, unless they feel more or less instant chemistry with him.
If he’s a nice guy, but there’s no chemistry, then they don’t consider him partner material.
Whereas, if there is […]
Dear Annie,
I am working on getting away from my abusive partner – although I am finding it more and more difficult. I want to start a new life, but something is holding me back and I don’t know what. I guess it’s fear.
Maybe one day I’ll feel strong enough!!!
Jolene
Dear Jolene,
“One day” […]
“Dear Annie,
Something is wrong with my life. I have been divorced from an emotionally abusive man for several years. I am living with a boyfriend who can’t find a job. He doesn’t even seem to care anymore. He doesn’t talk nicely to me. I don’t work either.
My ex-husband and his girlfriend recently bought a house together. […]
Hi Annie,
My husband was not verbally or physically abusive, but negligent. He withheld affection, we didn’t go anywhere, do anything, communicate. If I didn’t agree with him it was always his way and ‘not negotiable’. He would walk away from me rather than discuss anything and just tell me to leave him alone. Or […]
Dear Annie,
You are so good at describing any and all situations of abuse in a simple and clear manner. You are direct but respectful not to victimize us women for staying with these so called men we feel so in love with/addicted to.. Where did you get your training?
Barbara
Dear Barbara,
Thank you for your kind words. […]
Dear Annie,
How do you know when you’re not at fault?
“I’ve been married for 10 years, and just now wondering if all this time of struggling and trying to have a happy relationship, really I’m in an abusive one.
I don’t get called names, but it’s like I don’t matter. From the beginning when we’ve argued, […]
If you really love someone the small things will take care of themselves. Right or wrong?
In a relationship, what matters is getting the big things right, right? Get them right and the small things are just, well, ‘details’…
Allegedly.
But take a moment to think about it. How many fights have you had […]
Sara sat in the restaurant with tears trickling down her cheek, while an abusive partner ranted on about her Making Impossible Demands on him.
When she described the scene, I remembered how the same thing had happened to me (more than once, I’m sorry to say) and how devastated I’d felt.
Have you […]
It’s only in fairy tales that Mr Nasty suddenly changes, overnight, into Prince Charming. Abusers don’t change over night – not least, because they don’t want to. (Although that won’t stop them promising, if they think:
a) they’ve gone too far
b) you’ll listen)
Dear Annie,
I have finally ended the marriage and we have been divorced for 3 months, and yet I find I feel worse as time goes on. At first I felt a sense of relief (maybe because his anger, comments, judgement were still fresh in my mind). When I was with him I felt miserable most […]
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