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The Hardest Thing Of All
This week, I’ve spoken with several emotionally abused women about Parental Estrangement Syndrome (PES). I believe it is an important enough topic to share because, unfortunately, it happens to a lot of women. It may well be the hardest thing to deal with for any parent .Let’s start with a working definition: Parental Estrangement Syndrome occurs […]
“You Can Have Anything You Want…”
You can have anything, ANYTHING, you want.” That’s what my dad said to me. I was 8 years old, and it was the only time he ever said it to me, in my whole life.
He wasn’t tapping into his spiritual side – he wasn’t that sort of man. Nor was he encouraging me to go […]
“What Would An Emotionally Abusive Man Do?”
When you’ve been in an emotionally abusive relationship for a while, it’s easy to imagine that every relationship is like an emotionally abusive relationship, and everyone’s partner behaves the way your emotionally abusive partner does.
This week a client – let’s call her Glenda – sent me one of those ‘tip of the iceberg’ questions: “Aren’t all long-term relationships […]
“What’s his agenda?”
“Am I the emotionally abusive partner in this relationship?” Emma asked anxiously. She had dared to object to the way her partner was behaving towards her. His reply was that she was emotionally abusive towards him, which meant she was responsible for his behavior.
Could it be true? Could she have been the emotionally abusive […]
Why Nancy Felt Good About Leaving Her Emotionally Abusive Partner
Nancy’s email was short and sweet. She ‘just wanted to let me know she felt good about having left her emotionally abusive husband’.
Hooray!
It certainly hadn’t been easy for her – not that it ever is. She’d had to turn her child’s world upside down – you can imagine the guilt she felt about that – […]
Learnings from a Navajo Wedding Vase
So, you’ve been in an emotionally abusive relationship. What can you learn about relationships from a Navajo Wedding Vase?
Quite a lot, it seems.
Not that I knew the first thing about Navajo Wedding Vases, until I cam across this blog post by my good friend Jane Bennett. (http://www.theexpatpartner.com/living-abroad-relationship-pitfalls-a-navajo-vase/)
Jane explains the point of the Navajo Wedding Vase very […]
Why Valentine’s Day Sucks
I don’t know how you feel about it, but my decades on the planet have led me to the conclusion that…
Valentine’s Day sucks.
I believe it sucks whether you’re in a relationship, and have a man in your life, or whether you don’t.
It sucked, for me, when I was single, because I never got enough ‘Worship […]
“Have you ever asked yourself these questions?”
If you’re a woman who’s ended up in an emotionally abusive relationship, you’ve probably asked yourself a lot of questions.
You need to know that not all questions are equal.
Some questions are useful. Some are not.
“How could I be so stupid?” is not a useful question – not least, because of the presupposition that you’re stupid. […]
Has your emotionally abusive relationship taken over your life?
Has your emotionally abusive relationship taken over your life?
Living life – or, more correctly, trying to live life – as an emotionally abused woman is about as easy as trying to live with a family of elephants permanently parked right at the heart of your living space.
An emotionally abusive relationship fills all the space available.
Consciously, […]
The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse. Starting with the basics.
