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It’s Your Story of Recovery From Emotional Abuse, Too
Fiona Everywoman couldn’t take any more – that’s why she contacted me. She’d been married to a difficult, emotionally abusive husband for a lot of years, and she had hit rock bottom. She’d done EVERYTHING, she believed in marriage and the two parent family, but…
Fiona Everywoman is not her real name, of course. But, in […]
He Made Her Pizza!
There are a few things you need to understand about Little Johnny Manger, who we spoke about last week.
He’s the guy who makes such an unpleasant bedfellow – your unpleasant bedfellow; that’s something really important to understand. But he’s also pretty smart. His emotional age is DEFINITELY a single figure, and most probably a fairly […]
Who Are You Allowing?
“You have to allow me to spend quality time with my children, I said to my emotionally abusive husband. You’re being unreasonable. Why can’t you just behave reasonably towards me? I’ve always tried to do everything I can to make you happy.”
You’d think, wouldn’t you, that a partner should show some consideration – especially where […]
Gone But Not Forgotten
Does your emotionally abusive partner deserve your forgiveness?
It’s an important question.
Emotionally abused women frequently ask me the Forgive and Forget question. It goes, approximately, like this:
“How do I forgive my emotionally abusive husband so that I can forget about what happened, reclaim my sanity, recover from emotional abuse, and move on?”
It’s a bad question.
Just look […]
On Clean and Dirty Emotions
How do you cope when times are tough?
My own experience, and that of my many clients, suggests that we get caught up in the emotions of a situation. When life slaps a glass -or a bucket – of bitter aloes in front of us, what do we do? We tend to drain it – dutifully […]
What I loved about my emotionally abusive partner
Like emotional abusers the world over my emotionally abusive ex was NOT a nice man. As time has moved on, I’ve put more distance between him and me, and healed progressively. As I’ve healed, there has been a constant effort on my part to make as much sense as I possibly could out of the […]
On family relationships that just don’t work
This week my mother died. After a slow, ugly decline into dementia, with all its horrible trappings.
It was not a good death – at least, as far as I can tell.
It was that much tougher because my relationship with her – with all my family of origin – broke down very badly many years ago.
And […]
Top 10 Ways to Be Happy Even In Tough Times
As someone who’s been in an emotionally abusive relationship,you know just how hard it is to be happy when there is a black hole at the center of your life. The problem is you’re in a Catch 22 situation. You can’t be happy because living with an emotionally abusive partner is so awful. But until […]
“My Emotionally Abusive Husband Makes Me Feel Awful”
Rosie’s emotionally abusive husband had been driving her mad. She had not had a good week, she said. She’d tried to keep things pleasant enough with him, but he wasn’t having any of it. When asked what he wanted for dinner, he “didn’t care”. He was monosyllabic when spoken to. When my client asked if […]
The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse. Starting with the basics.
