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Does The Inner Cringe At Emotional Abuse Block You, Too?
The inner cringe at emotional abuse is something that anyone who has ever been in a toxic relationship has done a thousand times. The word “cringe” itself – defined as to: “bend one’s head and body in fear or apprehension or in a servile manner” describes perfectly how an emotional abuser teaches you to respond.
It […]
Emotional Abuse And Abandonment Revealed
Why abandonment escapes attention
Emotional abuse and abandonment go hand in hand. Yet abandonment is not something that most people give a great deal of thought.
Why don’t we make that association between emotional abuse and abandonment?
A couple of reasons spring to mind. First, doubtless, because of the understandable, human desire to see things as we want […]
When Your Family Are Not Your Family
What makes a family not feel like family? When I say family, by the way, I use the blanket term quite deliberately. That family may mean one or both parents, or one or more siblings – even one or more children. Either way, when a family behave as if they are not your family, the […]
Why Emotionally Abused Women Ought To Celebrate “Divorce Monday”
Let’s hear it for Divorce Monday!
Divorce Monday, first official day of Divorce Month (aka January) is the one day in the whole festive calendar that every emotionally abused woman ought to celebrate. I say this as someone who failed to celebrate quite a few – despite regularly going through the Christmas and New Year from Hell […]
What Emotionally Abused Women Worry About At Christmas
Christmas is the hardest time
For emotionally abused women Christmas can be the hardest time of year. The hype of Christmas becomes a magnifying glass through which everything that’s not right with their lives is judged – remorselessly.
Of course, that begs the question: by whom is it judged?
Obviously, by those people in their lives who first […]
Do You Want To Know What’s Really Going Through An Emotionally Abusive Husband’s Head?
Have you spent a load of time trying to understand what’s going through an emotionally abusive husband’s head?
You wouldn’t be normal – that is, as normal as you possibly can be, in an abnormal situation – if you hadn’t done just that. The trouble is, thinking about it doesn’t get you very far. It’s actually […]
You Have To Cut That Man Loose
“I have finally cut that man loose!”
“I have finally cut that man loose, Annie. I am happy to say that I’m quite detached from my emotionally abusive husband’s continuing antics and will continue to be true to myself.” writes Mary.
When Mary started working with me, she had reached the end of the line. She had spent […]
“Emotional Abuser, Narcissist, or…?”
“ Emotional abuser, or narcissist, Annie?” E. asked. For a lot of women, whether or not their partner is an emotional abuser – or Narcissist – becomes the most important question. Someone has to be accountable for the mayhem in the relationship. If their resident tormentor and fault-finder is emotionally abusive and/or a Narcissist, then he is, […]
The Journey Back From An Emotionally Abusive Relationship
An emotionally abusive relationship is a journey into darkness. It’s like venturing further and further into a fog; one of the – now fabled – pollution-generated fogs we used to have in the UK. Those fogs were rightly called ‘pea-soupers’ because they were as thick and solid as a split-pea soup. (Well, my split-pea soup […]
The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse. Starting with the basics.
