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This Is Why You Are Frightened of Emotionally Abusive People
I grew up with a lot of fear in my life. Perhaps you did, too. At the time, I couldn’t know it but I was actually deeply – and appropriately – frightened of emotionally abusive people. Those people were my family of origin.
My parents both came across as very powerful people. They expected unquestioning obedience; […]
“What is wrong with me?”
There comes a point in every abusive relationship when you know you should get out. Your abusive partner is making you miserable, you know the relationship is all wrong and, as far as you can see, your life has stopped dead… But still you stay. You know you should leave, but you don’t.
Instead, you ask ourself: “What’s wrong with me?”
Why Narcissists and Abusers Spoil Valentine’s Day
How did/does your Narcissist and abuser spoil Valentine’s day for you? Notice that I’m asking not if but how he did it. It is a foregone conclusion that narcissists and abusers will spoil Valentine’s Day for the one who loves them. It just goes with the territory.
My toxic Valentine
My abiding memory of how the wasband […]
“Why is it so hard to recover from emotional abuse?”
“Why is it so hard to recover from emotional abuse?” clients often ask. “Why can’t I just get over it and move on?” Not for the first time, there is no “just” about it.
Getting over the trauma of living with an emotional abuser, or Narcissist, is a big deal. On the other hand, it doesn’t […]
Have You Been Blinded By Emotional Abuse?
If you are reading this, and you don’t feel good about yourself, then you need to ask yourself, have you been blinded by emotional abuse? One of the hugely unpleasant things about emotional abuse is this, it catapults you into an alternative reality. An emotional abuser will, of course, tell you – over and over […]
Do You Need To Blame Yourself?
You have done nothing wrong
Do you need to blame yourself? Are you in the habit of blaming yourself? Please understand, I’m not suggesting that you should blame yourself. Still less, am I suggesting that you might have done anything wrong. The reason for my asking is simple – long experience of listening to emotionally abused women has taught […]
Should I stop trusting my emotionally abusive husband?
To trust, or not to trust?
Should I stop trusting my emotionally abusive husband? is a question I am very rarely asked. This is actually quite surprising – when you think that I’ve spent 12+ years working with thousands of women who are waking up to the realization that they’ve been trapped in emotionally abusive relationships. […]
3 Key Problems When You Need To Recover From Emotional Abuse
Going into a New Year is a great time to take a new look at what has held you back in the past. In this article we shall look at three key problems when you need to recover from emotional abuse. Having been there myself, and spoken to hundreds of other women, I know that […]
New Year’s Resolutions You Can Make To Overcome Narcissistic Abuse
If you’re a survivor of narcissistic abuse what New Year’s resolutions should you set? Is it even worth making resolutions? When your very own Jerk has done so much jerking of your emotional strings that it can be hard to feel half-way sane or half-way certain about what you even can have in your future.
The answer […]
The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse. Starting with the basics.
