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One Key Way Narcissistic People Sabotage Your Happiness
My beautiful friend Charlotte* received some stunning jewellery from her husband in the course of her long marriage. The guy had great taste. Every piece was exquisite and immensely covetable. She wore that jewellery from time to time, with pride but never joy. That worked for Mr Beautiful Jewellery Picker (BJP). This week we need […]
The Problem with Healing the Wounds of Abuse
This week we need to talk about healing the wounds of emotional abuse as we have not talked before. I want to share with you some new insights that might just shed new light on the old problem of how you relate to others and yourself.
If you were brought up with abusive parents, you were […]
Why You Need to Get into Your Head More
Having a relationship with a toxic, narcissistic partner does not leave you as it found you. Rather your abusive partner identifies every anxiety, every low feeling that you ever had and magnifies it. .Especially if you did not receive all the love and care you needed -and deserved – from your family of origin, then […]
When they say to you, “Nobody is perfect.”
Have you ever had people say to you, “Nobody’s perfect”? it’s one of those phrases that should be perfectly harmless. Still, if that seemingly harmless phrase/judgement does not land comfortably with you, you’re not alone in that – and you are not wrong. This week, we need to look at the important if uncomfortable learning […]
The Problem with Still Loving an Abusive Ex
Wouldn’t it be nice if, early on in an abusive relationship, you woke up and, Poof! just like that stopped loving your abusive partner? How many years and how much angst could you have saved yourself? If only people worked like that. Sadly, most people do not work like that. You have had to learn […]
How do they make you feel? The Key Red Flag Question
“What are the Red Flags you should be looking out for if you want to Narcissist-proof your life?” I was asked. I settled happily into my chair. This is, after all, one of my favorite questions since my whole mission is about educating women to safeguard them against repeating painful relationship mistakes.
“Intuition, intuition, INTUITION”, I […]
The Powerful Weapon That Is The Silent Treatment
We need to talk about The Silent Treatment, the technique of sulking to make a person feel rejected and abandoned that so many abusers employ to crush their partners, children or other family members. The truth is that The Silent Treatment is a weapon that abusers use to wound you deeply – without the perpetrator […]
Why You Need to be Very Aware of Projection
“I know you better than you know yourself.” was one of my father’s favorite phrases*. He used it to shape my perceptions of him – and also what I projected onto him. In this article we need to look at the various aspects of projection – that is the transfer of desires, beliefs and emotions […]
A Lesson in Love that I Learned from my Child
Having a child changes you – unless, that is, you are a Narcissist. (Nothing changes a Narcissist.) “Having a child, my mother often said, “requires you to become selfless.” My mother did – and didn’t – have a point.
Having a child opens your eyes to your own childhood
Having a child requires you put another […]
The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse. Starting with the basics.
