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How to Cope with Tough Times When You Don’t Feel You Can Cope
How do you cope with tough times when you don’t feel that you can cope? That is a problem that all survivors of an abusive relationship have to face – individually. Now, with the coronavirus pandemic, it is an issue that we all have to face both individually and collectively. This week, I want to […]
Do you suffer with the “Why me” question?
Have you ever asked yourself that old, “Why me?” question, with a view to trying to understand what is about you that has – allegedly – caused you to be on the receiving end of abuse, accusations and disappointments? If so, then read on, today’s article will help you understand where that mind-set comes from, […]
What Happens When You Think “It’s easier said than done”?
Have you ever balked at doing something because you thought, “That’s easier said than done”? If so, you need to know that that is a “weasel phrase”. “Weasel phrases” are problematic because they contain a grain of truth can wrong-foot a person and get in the way of your healing and happiness. […]
Why Feeling Broken May Not Be Such A Bad Thing
Have you ever felt “broken”? If so, how much have your feelings of brokenness related to the breakdown of a toxic relationship? In this article, I want to look at what those feelings of brokenness are really trying to tell you.
“I feel broken” is something that I hear a lot, from survivors of emotional and […]
How to cope in these tough times
How do you cope in these tough times? Right now, things aren’t easy for anyone. However, if you are someone whose personal circumstances were already difficult, as a consequence of an abusive relationship, then losing what “normality and certainties” you thought you had, is even harder. In this article, I want to share whatever I […]
What to do when you feel unsettled
This week I received a blast from the past, a communication from a decidedly narcissistic family member. It worked – no doubt, as intended – to unsettle me. I found the old, unhelpful “Yes, maybe they have changed…” thoughts kicking in. These thoughts are a hazard for anyone who has ever been in a close […]
“Did I attract the abuse?”
Have ever thought, or been told, that you “attracted the abuser and the abuse”? Sadly, given the current overlap between self-help and spirituality, the notion that the victim of abuse attracted the abuser and the abuse is all too common. In this article, we need to unpack the concept of a victim of abuse attracting […]
Are you, too, struggling with feeling invisible?
Today, we really need to talk about invisibility. Perhaps, given everything that you already have to face in your life, invisibility is nowhere near the top of your list. Perhaps it is not even on your list. However, anyone who has ever been in an abusive relationship has been made to feel invisible. That feels […]
It’s that time of year again…
It’s that time of year, again. Having soldiered through the Holiday Season, more or less successfully, now you have to deal with the calendar – and business – throwing Valentine’s Day at you. And, despite increasing sensitivity to issues that can cause distress – Valentine’s Day still largely escapes unscathed. We are all meant to […]
The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse. Starting with the basics.
