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Do You Ever Struggle With Boundaries Problems?
Abusive people teach you not to have boundaries. Your role is to prioritize every want, need, or whim that they might have. Saying “No” is seen an act of selfishness.
The One Thing You Probably Underuse
If you have experienced emotional and narcissistic abuse, you have likely learned not to get curious and question your abuser. However, curiosity can be therapeutic. In fact, you can use just three simple questions to achieve powerful emotional breakthroughs that will accelerate your healing.
3 Things that Stop You Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
This week, I’ve been talking with a lot of women who are struggling to heal from narcissistic abuse. They are putting a lot of energy into their recovery. Yet, they are not getting the kind of results that they would like. As I listened to them, three key points emerged. I wanted to share them […]
About Your Life After Narcissistic Abuse
How do you do life after you have had your heart broken and your spirit crushed by narcissistic abuse? If that strikes you as an impossible question, I hear you. It’s both normal and understandable to feel that the challenge you face is both overwhelming and impossible.
And yet, there is always a way […]
When a Toxic Ex Faces a Life Crisis, What Do You Do
Detaching emotionally from a toxic, abusive person that you have loved deeply is never easy. But what do you do when you find out that they are grappling with a major life crisis?
How do you reconcile the sense of obligation that you feel with taking care of yourself?
How do you deal with that reflex feeling […]
What makes you so hard on yourself?
This week, I want to tell you about a lovely client, let’s call her Jan. Jan typifies the kind of person – possibly rather like you – who has already made leaps and bounds in her awareness about emotional abuse and how it affects a person. But she still has something holding her back.
Jan has […]
You Are Not Broken But Blinded
Have you ever felt broken as a result of narcissistic and emotional abuse? If you have, that feeling is a perfectly normal response to the kind of deeply damaging relationship that you have been through. However, it is a huge drain on the energy and motivation that you can bring to bear on all areas […]
Do you worry about being the toxic one?
Have you ever worried about being the toxic one in your relationship?
Did this happen because you were labelled The Problem or The Narcissist by someone who was, actually, in no position to cast a first stone?
If so, you know that such labels and accusations play strange tricks on your mind. You end up both knowing that you […]
14 Ways that Abuse Affects the Way that You Show Up in the World
Have you ever thought that abuse has affected the way that you show up in the world? How could it not?
Intimate relationship abuse, inevitably, undermines your sense of self. That applies to all kinds of abuse from narcissistic and emotional abuse to mental, physical and sexual intimate relationship abuse, also.
But what I want to look […]
The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse. Starting with the basics.
