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How to Let Go of a Toxic Loved One
How to let go of a toxic loved one
How do you let go of a toxic loved one who, in an ideal world, you would have loved to have in your life? How do you let go of the pain, the anger and the rejection, maybe even the love that you still feel for them? […]
That Big “V” on the forehead
What drew a narcissistic abuser to you in the first place? According to the people spouting a pseudo-“positive” message of responsibility it was something that you did wrong.
As if you didn’t already have enough to cope with without that!
Not only do you have to rebuild your life from rock bottom but you have people telling […]
How to Recognise the Rescue Narcissist
What could possibly be more romantic than the partner who comes along at a time when your life is at an all-time low, sweeps you up in his strong arms and transports you to a better, happier place?
Fairy tales, chick lit and romantic movies have led young girls and women to see the rescuer as […]
What You Are Is Never Wasted
How much attention do you give to the patterns and themes that show up in your own life over the short and long term?
In my work especially, I am always looking for patterns and themes. Patterns and themes enable you to see beyond the single instance to the wounds and beliefs that underlie it. This […]
A Powerful Life Lesson from My Sourdough
The last few months have been nothing if not a STEEP learning curve. SO, I am wondering what life lessons have you learned from the pandemic?
For me, there have been a lot. But the strangest one, and the one that I believe could be powerful for you, too, is the lesson that I learned from […]
You Know That You Are Not Your Pain, Right?
How did you get into an abusive relationship in the first place? Here’s what I’m guessing happened. You weren’t feeling too great about yourself and then someone came along who made you feel like you were special. They made you feel that they loved who you were.
So, you started to find a sense of specialness […]
How Not to Be Fooled Again by A Toxic Partner
Falling in love only to wake up later and realise that you have been completed duped, misled and devalued by a toxic partner is one of the most devastating experiences a person can go through. It betrays the trust that you had in yourself and human nature.
So, what can you do so as not to […]
When You Feel Overwhelmed, Do This
What do you do when you need to react to a situation but you feel so overwhelmed by the difficulties that you don’t even know where to start? That was Cindy’s dilemma when I spoke to her earlier this week.
Cindy needed to leave an abusive partner and believe in herself enough to rebuild a good […]
What if it was all just a big con?
What if almost everything that an abuser ever said to was just one big, fat lie after another? How might that affect the view of yourself that you currently hold?
By the time an emotionally abusive relationship ends you know that it was all just a big con. The partner who swore to love you – […]
The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse. Starting with the basics.
