How To Shed An Old Skin
ou never will reach perfection, because human beings were never programmed for perfection.
But you are more than good enough, right now, exactly as you are. And you are the seed of what you will become.
Recovery
Success is…
I’ve always found that misery begets more misery. Focusing on what you don’t want has an unfortunate but predictable habit of drawing more of the same into your orbit. Focusing on something different, however modest that something may be, has the effect of producing a different, and better, result.
Ditching My Inner Sh**bag
The greatest, possibly the only real power we have in life is over what goes on in our own head. My Inner Sh**bag behaviour, I realised, was once upon a time the best – if not the only – strategy available to a very disempowered woman. I am not that woman any more. Nor do I wish to resort to those behaviours again. Ever.
Picture abundance
in the last couple of weeks I have done two things differently. First, I have stayed with my fears – not just my fears regarding the house – and I have accepted the worst case scenario. Strange to say, it’s a curiously liberating process. Second, I visualized the house selling, and the buyers have turned up and the whole process is going ahead very much in the way that I visualized it happening.
What makes your heart sing?
What holds most people back is that they do not have a clear, irresistible picture of what they want for themselves. Everybody, pretty much, knows they should have goals and dreams and they do their level best to come up with some. But maybe nobody ever told them that they have the right to explore and choose what makes their heart sing.
Start With The End In Mind
The truth is that for many of us compromising on the partner we truly want and need has been all but soul-destroying.
On Shame
We all make the best decisions we can at the time, for the best reasons we have at the time. Whatever decision we make requires tremendous courage. There are no easy options in an abusive relationship. The question is: how can you best protect yourself from further psychological damage?
Bring Back The Cilice Belt
Yvette is desperate to manage a dysfunctional situation and remain in control of her life. Her dilemma is this: if her partner’s behaviours are unacceptable then she is vindicated… but powerless. Because they are not going to change. If her attitude is to blame, then she is, clearly, losing her grip on the situation but, theoretically at least, she has the power to improve things.
The Power of Hope
Women in an abusive relationship don’t lose all hope, they just invest it in the wrong place. Actually, hope is one of the great motivators. It’s only misplaced hope that is futile.
Comfort eating – is it really that comforting?
The suffering of abuse is a terrible thing. The ultimate abuse is being led to believe that all the pain and the scars have to incapacitate you for the longest time. Healing is available and it can take place surprisingly fast, however dreadful the abuse has been, as long as you have access to the appropriate techniques. Extending your love and support to your own inner child is one of them.
The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse. Starting with the basics.