Leaving a narcissistic partner is never going to be easy. Most commonly, the abused partner spends painful months and years wondering how they can stay in the relationship and just move on from the hurt and the awfulness. Instead of thinking about how to leave an emotionally partner safely and well.
How best to leave a […]
Can a narcissistic partner change?
Can a narcissistic partner change in a heartbeat when they suddenly realize that they risk losing you once and for all? This is the question that victims of narcissistic abuse constantly ask themselves… in the hope of arriving at their preferred answer.
Today, I want to look at how you can deconstruct […]
How did your narcissistic partner identify you as a suitable target from Day 1? What were their criteria – because people as calculating as Narcissists undoubtedly are surely had some criteria in mind?
How could they know, right from the get-go, that you were worth the trouble of pursuing – inasmuch as they ever did pursue […]
“Why do you call my narcissistic partner stupid?”
“Why do you call my narcissistic partner stupid?” my lovely client asked. “He was much worse than that. That just doesn’t convey the mean, sick person that he is.”
Needless to say, my client’s ex-partner is a thoroughly horrible individual. He is one of those people who,
Has a short charm-span.
Holds out […]
Why an emotionally abusive relationship can never work is the very last thing that the partner of an emotional abuser thinks about. Instead, that partner will spend a LOT of time thinking about what they can do to make it work.
Whoever said that the victims of emotional abuse aren’t optimistic?
Even if that optimism was misplaced.
When […]
Do You Want The Low-Down On Sulking?
Do you recognise a sulker when you come up against one? I certainly did not. That was why I remained married to one for two decades. Plus, I was used to sulkers – my parents were spectacular sulkers. In fact, sulking seemed like quite normal behavior in the context […]
Is there a way to rewind an emotionally abusive relationship? Have you ever wished that you could? By the time that you walk away so many things have been said and done that would have been better unsaid and done. Plus, there are so many things that you as, victim and survivor, need to say […]
We need to talk about The Silent Treatment, the technique of sulking to make a person feel rejected and abandoned that so many abusers employ to crush their partners, children or other family members. The truth is that The Silent Treatment is a weapon that abusers use to wound you deeply – without the perpetrator […]
“I know you better than you know yourself.” was one of my father’s favorite phrases*. He used it to shape my perceptions of him – and also what I projected onto him. In this article we need to look at the various aspects of projection – that is the transfer of desires, beliefs and emotions […]
Having a child changes you – unless, that is, you are a Narcissist. (Nothing changes a Narcissist.) “Having a child, my mother often said, “requires you to become selfless.” My mother did – and didn’t – have a point.
Having a child opens your eyes to your own childhood
Having a child requires you put another […]
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