Domestic abuse

Are you invisible?

Sara sat in the restaurant with tears trickling down her cheek, while an abusive partner…

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“Can an abuser change overnight?”

It’s only in fairy tales that Mr Nasty suddenly changes, overnight, into Prince Charming. Abusers don’t change over night – not least, because they don’t want to. (Although that won’t stop them promising, if they think:
a) they’ve gone too far
b) you’ll listen)

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“Where is my self-esteem?”

Dear Annie, I have finally ended the marriage and we have been divorced for 3…

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Women Who Give Too Much

An abusive man will always see you in the worst possible light, interpret what you do in the most damning way, and judge you mercilessly. Abused women who give too much spend a lot of time beating themselves up about not giving enough, not loving enough, and not being good enough… to name but three of their deep-seated negative beliefs about themselves.

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Hungry Heart

Abused women have hungry hearts. It was a hungry heart that took them into an abusive relationship in the first place. In the course of the relationship, that heart became a whole lot hungrier.

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He’s just not that into women

Abusive men hold a very black and white view of the world.  Theirs is a…

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“Am I doing the right thing filing for divorce?”

Hi Annie, I have to ask your opinion, although I think I already know the…

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Are you naive?

One of the wounds that abused women have received is, undoubtedly, the wound of naivety. We tend to believe too readily. We are too easily deceived. Where are abusive partners are concerned, this costs us dear.

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What do you say to…

What do you say to the girl who “just wants to help” her abusive partner? Why “helping” an abusive man never helps him, or you.

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“It’s me or the dog! ”

If you’ve been with an abusive partner for any length of time, you will have…

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The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse.  Starting with the basics.