“What makes it so hard to
put an emotionally abusive
relationship behind you?”
There are many, many things that keep you stuck in an emotionally abusive relationship…
- Fear for the future
- Fear you’ll never find someone as wonderful again
- Fear he’ll have a great relationship with the next woman
- Fear of hurting the children
- Fear of being left with no money
- Fear of your life being over
- Fear of looking – as well as feeling – like a failure
But what’s the biggest fear of all; the fear that fuels all the other fears?
What’s the fear that eats away at you night and day, paralyzing you?
That fear is, quite simply…
The fear – or if you prefer, the belief – that you’re not good enough to have a wonderful life.
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I do find the challenge of working through your book is one of the best things I have found for survivors. I’m sorry it’s taken a good portion of my life to find out what I’ve missed and WHO I’ve missed becoming. The best part of that is the realization that the rest of my life doesn’t have to be more of the same, but a new and improved me.
As soon as I started to read “The Woman You Want To Be”, I grabbed a binder and wrote my contract and listed my things to celebrate. And I began to feel that there was somebody out there who really understood the abuse I’ve felt and the scars there are. Thank you. For writing your book, and for understanding what it feels like to feel worthless and hopeless.
I can say I only spent 1 hour feeling despondent yesterday… Your book is the most valuable recovery tool I have used.”
There are lots of books, and materials, out there that explain the nature of emotional abuse. You can read them, and come away with a load more information.
And then what?
Because they don’t help you deal with the fear – and the ‘sister emotions’ of fear, like shame, and pain, and self-loathing – nothing really changes.
You may know more, but you’re still paralyzed and frightened and…
Because you are still paralyzed and frightened…
You keep on doing the same things you’ve always done
You keep trying to make the relationship work.
Even though, in your heart of hearts, you know…
Your relationship is dead in the water.
Now, I know you don’t want to hear that because I’ve been where you are now. In fact, I spent
20 years in an emotionally
Frightened out of my wits.
But let me introduce myself:
I’m Annie Kaszina. I’m the author of “The Woman You Want To Be” and “Married to Mr Nasty”. I’m a writer, Women’s Emotional Abuse Recovery Expert and transformational speaker.
More importantly, I’m someone who spent 20 years in an emotionally abusive marriage.
I spent year after year lying to myself, telling myself he loved me really, trying desperately to make it work, forgiving things he never truly apologized for, overlooking how awful the relationship was, and denying how destructive it was for me.
I used the “L” word to justify EVERYTHING:
“We LOVE each other really. I LOVE him so much. Etc etc”
Have you ever used the “L” word to justify a bad relationship?
I finally left almost by accident. My husband hurt me too much, one time too many, and almost before I knew it, I told him he’d have to go.
Well, he left and…
I spent more time than I care to remember scared out of my wits, worrying about the future, wondering if I’d made the biggest mistake of my life.
And all the time, I was looking for help and support. I was searching, like a drowning woman, for the support and guidance I needed to stay focused, believe in myself, and get my life back on track.
I didn’t find them.
At the time, they didn’t exist.
That’s why I’ve spent 7 years creating them.
Can I share something with you?
I hated to think I’d thrown away years of my precious life with a man who actually hated me.
I’m sorry if this sounds harsh but…
If a man speaks to you like he hates you, and treats you like he hates you, and behaves as if you were his worst enemy, there’s a reason for that.
He doesn’t love you.
He hates you.
The fact is
he hates women, in general, and you, in particular.
In a curious sort of way, it’s not even personal.
It really is NOT about you.
It’s all about him. His negativity is his “stuff”. It’s not yours to deal with.
Although that probably doesn’t help you, yet.
When I left my abusive relationship, I made a vow to myself, to help other women in emotionally abusive relationships.
My mission is to help other women get over the hurt, let go of their abusive partner, once and for all, and start to step into the woman they truly are.
My mission is to help YOU, if you’ll let me.
Because it was hard for me, I want it to be as easy as it possible can be for you.
Your recovery really matters to me.
“I have to tell you, you have made all the difference in my life.
I started out looking for a way to heal myself. I was a real mess. Everyone always says: “Leave him. Go now. Run for your life…” It isn’t that they are wrong in their advice. It’s just, how can an empty, crumpled heap run?
That’s where you came in. You gave me the tools to get myself back up on my feet, little by little.
Last night I told him it was over…I’m starting a new job and today I have enrolled in college. The world looks different and I have a strange peace within myself. I’m not alone anymore, and I have hope in my future.
You gave me this gift… Thank you for caring.”
You have immense strength
You probably don’t realize it, yet, but it’s taken you immense strength to survive your abusive relationship.
What do you think will happen when you start to harness that strength to rebuild your life?
What will happen when you start to show yourself some of the love you’ve given to an unloving partner?
What will happen when you position yourself at the centre of your own world?
(And why wouldn’t you, for goodness sake? It’s YOUR WORLD, after all. Besides, you’ve tried putting other people at the centre of your world, and that hasn’t worked.)
It’s time to discover how to treat yourself as a precious person, so you can
TEACH people in your life to treat you as a special person.
Because it’s your responsibility to
Teach people how you want to be treated.
Finally! A Powerful Tool
For Abuse Recovery
My e-Book, “The Woman You Want To Be” shares with you the uniquely powerful, simple to follow strategy for abuse recovery that I spent 5 years developing.
This strategy will work for anyone who is prepared to take it on board and work with it for just 10 minutes a day.
Are you prepared to invest just 10 minutes a day, over the next year, to **TRANSFORM** your life?
You see, your recovery is very doable.
I’ve helped hundreds and hundreds of women who believed their life was over.
They believed they were too old, and too damaged, and too unlovable to have a future – just like I did. Maybe, just like you do, now.
Now, they LOVE their life.
They feel good about themselves.
They understand that what happened to them was NOT their fault.
They know they will NEVER, EVER let it happen to them again.
“What makes the difference, Annie?”
They commit to invest in themselves.
Would you believe just 10 minutes a day, over the course of 1 year, is enough to make all the difference?
(I’m guessing that’s 10 minutes a day more than you spend truly investing in yourself.)
They used that tiny investment to learn how to believe in their own value, and LOVE themselves.
You can, too.
STOP trying to struggle through
on your own!
Look, you’ve tried to work through this on your own.
It’s a long, hard, lonely road.
It’s too easy to get disheartened and give up when you travel that road alone.
And you already know that the loneliness has nearly crushed the life out of you.
Why not start to **do the difficult things the easy way**?
You’re suffering because…
Your abusive partner has BRAINWASHED you!
It’s only true!
You’ve been brainwashed into thinking you are stupid, and worthless, and unlovable.
Let me invite you to think, for a moment, about how easy it would be to rebuild your life if you felt good enough, and worthy enough, and lovable.
If you really believed you had a future worth living ahead of you, would you feel HAPPY to let go of your abusive partner, and move on?
If you believed that there is still a great, happy life out there for you, do you think you would find the hope and the courage to move?
If you really believed that life would still hold out great joys for you, with a circle of people who love and cherish you…
Would you even want to hold on to a destructive relationship and an abusive partner?
If you KNOW you deserve more from life than an abusive relationship, the way forward is simple.
What you have to do is rebuild your self-belief.
And, contrary to what you probably think, that does NOT have to be difficult.
Now, because doing this work on yourself can be simple, that does NOT make you wrong, or a failure, or any of the other things you probably tell yourself…
Simple doesn’t mean obvious
It’s simple… Once you know how.
Simple is not easy: it isn’t easy to find the resources you need. Otherwise you would have found them, already.
Suppose you were to think of it like this: it’s a bit like using a computer…
A computer will allow you to do great things. But, if nobody has ever shown you how to turn it on, and you don’t know how to turn it on, you’ll never be able to get the results other people get.
(And you might even blame yourself, and tell yourself the fault lies with you..,)
**Until now, nobody has shown you,
step by step, how you can recover from emotional abuse.**
Overcoming your fear and rebuilding your good feelings is a little like turning on the computer.
The only difference is, it’s not a one off action.
You can’t just read through a book and change.
Everything doesn’t magically change overnight, just because you’ve made the decision to change.
Here’s what you MUST do
You HAVE to keep flicking the switch
By investing in your recovery for just 10 minutes a day, and you really will POWER UP that computer.
You see, you’ve had bad feelings programmed into you, by your abusive partner.
It’s time, now, for you to turn feeling good about yourself into your default setting.
“The Woman You Want To Be” provides you with an easy, almost fool-proof tool for doing just that.
“Tell me, how does it work, Annie?”
“The Woman You Want To Be” is a workbook. It’s specially designed and written for emotionally abused women, to provide you with the help and support over a year of your life.
All you have to do is commit 10 minutes a day to focusing on your recovery.
It will be like having me walking beside you, guiding you along your journey for a full year.
“Are you saying it wil take me a year to feel better about myself, Annie?”
The chances are you’ll start to feel better about yourself very quickly.
But here’s the thing:
You’ve been trained…
You’ve been TRAINED in the habit of feeling bad about yourself. Your abusive partner has programmed bad feelings into you…
It will take a while to break that old pattern.
What do I mean by “that old pattern”?
I mean that when something upsetting happens, or when you face a difficulty, you go back into the old pattern of blaming yourself, and feeling negative about yourself…
By working through “The Woman You Want To Be”, for just 10 minutes a day, you’ll find that old pattern will fall away, to be replaced by:
• More confidence
• More self-belief
• More self-love
• More optimism
• More courage…
That really is all it will take to replace the old brainwashing with MORE of all the positive things that will make rebuilding your life easy and enjoyable.
LISTEN! Other women who felt just like you have built a better life for themselves, and their children.
You CAN, too.
YOU MUST TAKE ACTION!
One thing I can guarantee: if you stay put and do nothing, it will get worse.
Your abusive partner is starving you of the love, laughter and happiness you need, in order to have a life worth living.
How much longer are you prepared to starve?
I don’t know exactly what your future holds, but hold this thought:
Not one woman who has put her abusive partner behind her has ever said to me:
“I wish I was still with him. Life was better, and I was happier when I was with him.”
Your life begins again when you start your recovery from the emotional abuse.
MAKE THAT DECISION NOW.
PS Listen. I know it may sound too big an undertaking, right now. I understand that. I’ve been there. And because I was frightened, I wasted another 3 years of my life with my abusive husband
Do nothing, and a year or two from now, you could come back to this page, no further on, feeling even worse than you do now. I don’t want that for you.
You haven’t had a whole lot of happiness until now. You really do deserve so much more.
Start your healing journey NOW.
I know how fearful you’re probably feeling. I
In fact, you may be feeling so mentally, emotionally, spiritually and financially impoverished that the price of this book sounds like too big a risk to take.
That’s why I’m offering an UNCONDITIONAL 100% Money Back Guarantee, with absolutely No Questions Asked.
The fact that you’re reading this now means your recovery is important to you, and what I’m saying resonates with you, so let me ask you one thing:
Do you believe your happiness is worth the price of this e-Book?
If the answer is “YES”, then welcome to the quiet, determined army of women who are breaking the mold of emotional abuse, once and for all.
If you answer “No”, then you have my profound sympathy and concern. I’m sorry you feel you have to suffer even more before you will be ready to leave – and I look forward to helping and supporting you when that moment finally comes.