abusive partner

“What’s wrong with me?”

10 November 2010

There comes a point in every abusive relationship when you know you should get out. Your abusive partner is making you miserable, you know the relationship is all wrong and, as far as you can see, your life has stopped dead… But still you stay. You know you should leave, but you don’t.
Instead, you ask ourself: “What’s wrong with me?”

Read the full article →

“I’m Not Sure I Am An Abused Woman…”

31 October 2010

Your husband tells you that you are selfish, self-centred, and you have ruined your his life. What a poor hard done by victim he is! But, also, what a negative, critical, fault-finding, punitive, blaming partner he is. If he’s that unhappy, why hasn’t he left you long ago? Unless, the reason he stays with you is because, actually, he enjoys blaming you for ‘ruining his life’… I’m guessing your husband gets a real high out of telling you how awful you are. Now, in my book, that is selfish, and destructive. It is the hallmark of an abusive man.

Read the full article →

“Why Do You Think It Is So Easy To Change The People-Pleasing Habit?”

18 October 2010

You’ve spent your time being nice to – that is doing back flips to please – a man who treats you badly –and, all the while, treating yourself badly, when you could get to treat yourself well. It’s never about changing away from being nice. It’s all about loving yourself first, and not casting pearls before swine…

Read the full article →

Brainwashed By The “Misery Trilogy”!

18 October 2010

It’s not unusual for clients to tell me what they should do, or what they need to do. And we’re not just talking about goal setting here. Abused women often tell me that they have to stop waiting for an abusive partner to change. Or they should take better care of themselves. Or they need to believe they deserve a better life. What they don’t know is that they’ve been brainwashed by the “Misery Trilogy”!

Read the full article →

Saved By A Bale Of Towels – Anne Milford’s story

1 September 2010

For every abused woman, the ‘reality check’ kicks in, at some point. Something makes you realize how profoundly miserable you are in your abusive relationship. The towels that are the gift you get for marrying the wrong guy, the dream about the timeshare that’s never going to come true, the fight because you’re wearing the wrong shoes. Finally, you see the light. t’s never going to get any better.
Your abusive partner is only ever going to get worse.

Read the full article →

← Previous Entries