Your emotionally abusive partner doesn’t want you to recover from his emotional abuse. Why would he? There’s nothing in it for him. Emotionally abusive partners are, by definition, dogs in a manger. Whether or not they move on, they don’t want you to. They measure their power by the power they have to make you […]
“Help! My sister’s bullying me. How do I deal with a bullying sibling?” a client asked me this week.
Being bullied by a member of your own family – especially when you are a child – can be incredibly hard to deal with. Many people underestimate the difficulties of being a child. Having been brought up in […]
This week I experienced a powerful revelation that I want to share with you: emotional abuse really is personal… But NOT in the way you think.
As I write this, I’m exhausted and exhilarated, having spent the weekend on a wonderful, personal development training. I’ll admit I went in a sceptical frame of mind. In an […]
Pay attention to what you tell yourself. If you want to recover from emotional abuse, but you’re telling yourself your emotionally abusive relationship has been so awful, and you’re so damaged you’ll probably never get over it, then you’re not doing yourself any good at all. You MUST learn how to stop that.
Don’t listen to […]
“How could he do that to me?” is a question emotionally abused women always ask themselves. And me. Underlying their question is the belief that there is no good answer.
They’re right, of course.
But then it’s not about goodness, at all. Goodness has NOTHING to do with it.
And it’s not just about your emotionally abusive partner. […]
Everything has a purpose; even an emotionally abusive relationship. That’s what I choose to believe. Not least because it serves me far better than any other belief I’ve yet found – or heard – about emotionally abusive relationships.
So, what could possibly be the purpose of an emotionally abusive relationship?
You might well ask.
When I was […]
Fiona Everywoman couldn’t take any more – that’s why she contacted me. She’d been married to a difficult, emotionally abusive husband for a lot of years, and she had hit rock bottom. She’d done EVERYTHING, she believed in marriage and the two parent family, but…
Fiona Everywoman is not her real name, of course. But, in […]
How do you cope when times are tough?
My own experience, and that of my many clients, suggests that we get caught up in the emotions of a situation. When life slaps a glass -or a bucket – of bitter aloes in front of us, what do we do? We tend to drain it – dutifully […]
Like emotional abusers the world over my emotionally abusive ex was NOT a nice man. As time has moved on, I’ve put more distance between him and me, and healed progressively. As I’ve healed, there has been a constant effort on my part to make as much sense as I possibly could out of the […]
I was speaking with a lovely lady in Australia about emotionally abusive partners, when she said: “Annie I love it when you write about how a good partner behaves. I wish you’d write more about it.”
One reason I often don’t is this: my lovely partner is as modest as he is delightful. He actually feels […]
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