Hi there, and welcome.

I want you to know something.

It is NOT too late for you to have a happy, rewarding life.

You are NOT broken – in fact, you are NOT any of the awful things your emotionally abusive partner said about you.

The truth about you is much, much better than you dare to dream – that is if you do even dare to dream any more.

The best of your life is soon to come.

Annie Kaszina CPHI’m Annie Kaszina, I’m a coach, international speaker, and award-winning author.  But, more to the point, I’m totally committed to helping women, just like you, get over toxic relationships, so they can create the joyful, fulfilling lives they deserve.

In fact, I’ve spent the last 12 years helping thousands of women, worldwide, recover from emotional abuse. I’ve been featured in newspapers and magazines, written books, created programs, and created my own super-effective “Happy Trinity” method to help women, just like you, to heal. The thing is,

I know exactly how you feel. Here’s why.

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 The Way It Was

I have traveled the whole hideous emotional abuse journey. I have

  • Spent 20 years in an emotionally abusive relationship.
  • Gave up my country, my home, and my life for my husband.
  • Gave up my country, my home, and my life for my husband.
  • Had the in-laws from hell.
  • Spent years going between deep depression and suicidal feelings.
  • Become estranged from friends, family of origin, and even my own child.
  • Tried a million times to “make the marriage work”. (I even took him back once after a trial separation.)
  • Went through the whole “why me?” thing.
  • Hated myself, and blamed myself for everything.
  • Lost my voice and my identity.
  • Been through an acrimonious divorce
  • Lost out financially because I just didn’t have the energy to fight my corner.
  • Struggled to start over.

In short, my sense of being a half-way worthwhile person was shattered into a million pieces. I felt like an empty husk.

The way it is now

Now, I

  • have a wonderful career that I would never have thought of.
  • have the joy of doing meaningful work that I love.
  • work with amazing women.
  • have written 4 books in the last 12 years (and featured in several others.) My last book “Do You Choose Your Dog More Carefully Than Your Husband?” has won 5 awards.
  • have a wonderful partner who is always a delight to be with
  • am happier than I would ever have dreamed possible
  • LOVE my life.
  • Feel that I have been reborn.

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Just like my wonderful clients, I am truly grateful for everything I now have.

Honestly, it was not easy getting to where I am today. The resources and support that I needed were not around.

However, the one thing I had going for me – depressed and desperate as I was – was that I had done a Ph.D. I had a talent for research.

Discovering what works

I did a huge amount of research into emotional abuse, and how it affects sufferers. I talked with other domestic abuse victims, read everything I could get my hands on, trained as a coach, learned NLP, and studied a ton of different modalities – including TFT, EFT, Matrix Re-imprinting.

Gradually, I discovered the things that really make the difference – everything that takes you from, “I know I shouldn’t feel this way, but…” to feeling great, being confident to be your own person, so you can – finally – live life on your times – and enjoy peace of mind.

I started out working with a really tough client – myself. (I honestly think I could have been the most miserable, cynical person on the planet.) I went on to work with women in refuges. Those women were truly amazing. They had suffered so much. They’d been through so many things that nobody should have to go through. They had lost pretty much everything they had. (A couple of them had even lost access to their children.)

However, those women were amazingly bright and brave. Their lives had been much, much worse than my mine. Their situation was much, much harsher than mine. But they took everything that I could teach them and they used it to turn their lives around.

That taught me something that changed my life.

What even some “experts” get wrong

 

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The “experts” I had encountered – who mostly had NO PERSONAL EXPERIENCE of emotional abuse – had told me that, even when you eventually get over emotional abuse, you will still be left with the scars.

What I saw with those women in the refuge, and what I have seen with my clients since, is quite different.

I see women who carry a huge burden of pain, blame, shame, anxiety, and rejection. They want nothing better than to be free of that burden. That burden bows them down, it bends them double. However, it DOES NOT BREAK THEM.

When you start to remove that burden from their shoulders, they rise up to their full stature, and hold their head high.  They become free, proud, and happy.

That is what I want for you, to hold your head high. To be free, proud, and happy. That is what I want for every woman who comes to this site.

The reason why I do the work that I do is to help other women who have been through what I have been through – and worse. I cannot bear for any woman to suffer any more than she has already suffered in an emotionally abusive relationship. Especially now that there are so many tools, tips, and techniques you can learn that can TRANSFORM the way you feel.

I went from hurt to whole even though I never thought that would be possible. (You see, I was one of those people who say, “It’s different for me.” Although, in reality, it wasn’t.)

I can, and so can you

 

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If I can do it, I know that you can, too.

Like me, you don’t just owe it to yourself to heal. You owe it to your children, and all the other women like you, and who will come after you. We have to break the chain of abuse, once and for all, for all of our sisters. Whether we know them, or not.  You only have to break that chain for yourself to weaken it for countless other women.

I hope you will let me help you, too.

Warm wishes for your healing and happiness,

Annie