Let’s hear it for Divorce Monday!
Divorce Monday, first official day of Divorce Month (aka January) is the one day in the whole festive calendar that every emotionally abused woman ought to celebrate. I say this as someone who failed to celebrate quite a few – despite regularly going through the Christmas and New Year from Hell […]
Christmas is the hardest time
For emotionally abused women Christmas can be the hardest time of year. The hype of Christmas becomes a magnifying glass through which everything that’s not right with their lives is judged – remorselessly.
Of course, that begs the question: by whom is it judged?
Obviously, by those people in their lives who first […]
Have you spent a load of time trying to understand what’s going through an emotionally abusive husband’s head?
You wouldn’t be normal – that is, as normal as you possibly can be, in an abnormal situation – if you hadn’t done just that. The trouble is, thinking about it doesn’t get you very far. It’s actually […]
“I have finally cut that man loose!”
“I have finally cut that man loose, Annie. I am happy to say that I’m quite detached from my emotionally abusive husband’s continuing antics and will continue to be true to myself.” writes Mary.
When Mary started working with me, she had reached the end of the line. She had spent […]
“ Emotional abuser, or narcissist, Annie?” E. asked. For a lot of women, whether or not their partner is an emotional abuser – or Narcissist – becomes the most important question. Someone has to be accountable for the mayhem in the relationship. If their resident tormentor and fault-finder is emotionally abusive and/or a Narcissist, then he is, […]
An emotionally abusive relationship is a journey into darkness. It’s like venturing further and further into a fog; one of the – now fabled – pollution-generated fogs we used to have in the UK. Those fogs were rightly called ‘pea-soupers’ because they were as thick and solid as a split-pea soup. (Well, my split-pea soup […]
Let’s start with the basics. Emotional abuse is incredibly hard to recognise for what it is, let alone deal with, when you’re in it, because you can’t possibly see it for what it is. As you see it, you’re in a relationship with another human being – it’s about you and him.
In practice, something very […]
I don’t normally talk about bodily functions – because I have standards, too. But this could be one of the most important pieces of information I’ve ever shared about emotional abuse. That’s why I’m prepared to stick my neck out – even to the point of using that ‘F’ word!
Because it feels so important to […]
Why you can’t just “bounce back”
Emotional abuse is not something you just bounce back from. If someone simply said something hurtful and unfair to you a few times then, chances are, you would bounce back. But that’s not how emotional abuse works, is it?
Emotional abuse is systematic, deliberate, long-term, and tailor-made to chip away at […]
Could you be in denial?
Could that have anything to do with why Other People shake their heads, and express amazement that you ‘just can’t see what’s going on and walk away’?
Is Denial something you’ve even stopped to think about?
If you haven’t, perhaps you should.
Original it ain’t, but it still merits repetition: “Denial is not a […]
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